KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
How
To Overcome Shyness Around Women
Most times, men are the ones that do the asking
for dates. Men have to approach the women, say the right words
and hope she accepts the invitation. This is nerve-wracking
at best for most guys - especially shy men.
But if you’re sitting at home waiting for her to ask you out,
you’re making a big mistake. Chances are, she won’t. If you’re
shy and you haven’t been sending signals, she’s not even going
to know that you’re interested.
And some women won’t ask a man out just because there’s still
that unspoken rule for some that the guy should do the asking.
If you fear asking a girl out because you may get rejected,
you’re not alone.
It happens, but not asking anyone out is pretty much going
to guarantee that you’ll be spending your Saturday nights by
yourself or with your Poker buddies for many years to come.
Shyness
stems from a fear of rejection. You’re afraid to approach,
talk and ask, because she might not show an interest in you.
The beauty is that there are literally billions of women on
the planet, and many of them are single, within your age range,
like the same things you like, and are looking for someone
like you.
The best things you can do for yourself if you’re shy about
asking women out is to do it until you get over your shyness
and hesitation. You have a list of reasons not to do this as
long as your arm, but really the best thing you can do for
yourself is to just get practice until it becomes second nature.
Ask women out who you think you want to date – choose your
targets and just do it. Here’s how:
- First,
realize that you will get shot down sometimes. Everybody
does. But you have to start somewhere.
- Practice.
You can do this in front of a mirror, with a recorder or
with
a trusted friend. Practice asking a woman out
that you’ve met before and you at least know a little bit.
For example:
“I’ve got two tickets for the Red Sox game this Saturday,
would you like to join me?” Or, “Have you been to the new
Thai restaurant
on Third Street? I’m planning on trying it out, but
I can’t find anyone else willing to try it - would you
like
to join
me?” She will either say yes, no, or “Oh, I can’t,
I’ve made plans for Saturday.”
- If
she says she already has plans, that doesn’t necessarily
mean she doesn’t want
to go out with you. You won’t
know for sure whether she’s making it up or not. Don’t
stand there and
say, “Well, how about Tuesday, or next Saturday?”
because you’ll look desperate. Smile and say, “Okay, well
maybe
next time.”
Be friendly and try again in a few weeks.
You
have to be willing to take some risks if you want to date. You are going to get turned down on occasion – just chalk that
up to experience and move on. It’s not something you should
ever take personally, because not every woman is going to like
you and you’re not going to like every woman. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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