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Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
Planning
a Date: Think Outside the Box
One of the advantages you have as a nice guy
is that you take a sincere interest in the women you date (right?).
Most nice guys spend more time planning to make a date nice,
and taking the time to find out what this woman is all about.
Many
bad boys and arrogant men (the kind that women eventually
learn to really dislike a lot) rely on the same stale routines
for all of their dates. They go to the same places, and do
the same things, seldom taking the time to be really interested
in the individual they’re dating and what she might enjoy.
This doesn’t mean that you have to put your interests and
preferences on hold. What it means is that you need to figure
out things to do that you’ll both enjoy and that will give
you a chance to get to know each other in a comfortable setting.
You don’t have to worry about impressing her with the amount
of money you spend on the date or taking her to a club that
only celebrities and socialites can get into. You need to impress
her by being interesting, fun, a good listener and sincerely
concerned with finding out who she is and what she’s all about.
So, it’s very important to think outside the box when planning
dates. If you’ve been paying attention to what she says she
likes, you can surprise her now and then with an adventure
or tickets to a show she’s been dying to see.
The movie and dinner scene can get boring and she might begin
to resent the same old, same old. It’s up to you to keep things
interesting and fun. Other things you can do to be creative
and gain her top spot for best date could be:
- Surprise
her by doing something you know she would love, but that
you probably wouldn’t pick for yourself – like going
to the ballet or accompanying her to a lecture on the significance
of sustainable living in today’s world.
These might be of real interest to her, but maybe you’re
not so excited. If you do something like this once in awhile
for
her, you’re going to gain major points. And you might
find that you enjoy the ballet (it could happen).
- If
she’s expressed an interest in learning something new
and you’re interested too, or already know about that
particular topic, take her on a date where she (and you)
can learn about
it. For example, if she’s never been skiing, but has
mentioned that she thinks it looks like fun, plan a daytrip
to the nearest
bunny hill and go for it. Or take an art class with
her to learn a new technique if she admires paintings.
- Mix
things up by going on dinner and movie dates now and
then, and then an afternoon date to the zoo, and then
something
exciting and new, like the ski date mentioned above.
The trick is to not do the same thing over and over,
and to not assume
she’ll want to do everything that you want to do.
It’s a give and take.
Keep your dating routine anything but routine and you’ll find
that she looks forward to each date with you – wondering what
will be next. Don’t forget to ask her what she’s interested
in doing for dates, and enjoy dating outside the box! Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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