KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
Being
Single: Stop Feeling The Pressure
There’s
a lot of pressure associated with being single. You have friends who are married or in relationships,
and the media is relentlessly showing you visions of people
who have one date after another, with hardly a moment to breathe.
You want to find a nice woman to date, and you’d like to find
a nice woman to share your life with, but you’re not so sure
about the idea of trying to date seven nights a week, no matter
what the dating gurus tell you.
It’s fun to have a busy social life, but let’s be real about
this - quantity does not equal quality and dating just because
you feel some social pressure to, is dating for the wrong reason.
Let’s take some of the pressure off and take a sane and realistic
approach to dating. What do we know?
- We
know that you’ll probably have to date in order to
find the right girl.
- We
know that you’ll probably have to date several people
before you find the right girl.
- We
know that trying to do everything in a rush is never a
good idea. That’s
because when you start to
rush into things,
the chances of not being prepared are greater and
the chances of doing things you’ll regret increase.
- We
know that if you’re out every night on a date, you’ll most
likely
wear yourself out and end up tired
and disappointed
because you’re not paying attention to quality
vs. quantity.
You need to relax a bit and not be in such a huge hurry. Even
if you’ve waited all your life to find Mrs. Right, and you
don’t want to miss out, you still have to get your head on
straight and take a sane approach to dating, not a frenzied
one.
Since you’ll probably need to date several women to find the
right girl for you, you should commit yourself to approaching
dating in a relaxed manner, knowing that any girl could be
her, but any girl might not be, too.
The pressure to be paired-up is heavy for both men and women,
and it doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 70. Well-meaning friends
and colleagues, not to mention your family want to know when
you’re going to settle down and find a girlfriend or wife.
They
must have forgotten that good women don’t just fall out of
the sky and into your yard with your name pinned to their
blouse. Finding the right mate takes time, patience
and effort. Don’t
allow yourself to fixate on the number of dates you’ve had
in the last week, month or year.
By using a sensible approach to dating and not rushing yourself,
you’ll find that you have better results. This isn’t to say
that you should simply sit at home waiting for her to show
up. You still have to put yourself out there and take risks
if you want the rewards.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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