KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
Your
Initial Approach: Make It Positive
You’ve spotted a nice woman that you’d like
to get to know. Your initial approach is going to make all
the difference in how she perceives you and whether or not
she’s open to getting to know you better.
When you notice a woman you want to talk to, you can start
things off before you even say a word to her. An exchanged
smile when she looks your way with a second of eye
contact is a good way to start things off.
This happens in the span of a couple of seconds, but it’s
a great way to start. Once a glance and a smile are exchanged,
you can approach her and start a conversation. This can be
scary, but it’s the way things work.
Of course, you don’t need to wait to catch her eye first.
You can always just walk up to her and start a pleasant conversation.
When you approach her to talk, start out on a positive note,
and keep things that way.
A
smile and an interesting comment or question will work. Hopefully, you’ve prepared yourself with something interesting
and relevant to say, and you’ve left the pick-up lines at home.
Depending on where you are and what the occasion is, you can
come up with interesting openers.
If you’re at your friend’s wedding, then comment about the
DJ or the Band, or how happy the bride and groom look. If you’re
at a business meeting, ask her which department she’s from.
Let the conversation develop from there.
As you’re talking, remember to keep things positive
and upbeat.
Women don’t want to meet a guy who complains about things or
seems negative about himself. Along the same vein, don’t disagree
with her about everything.
For example: if she says she thinks that George Michael is
the greatest performer of all time, you can tactfully say that
you prefer David Bowie. With issues that have a way of getting
people irritated, you should tread more lightly.
Saying that her choice of political candidate is just plain
wrong should be avoided. You can always smile and say, “Candidate
So and So seems to have a strong following. I am still making
my decision.”
Other sensitive topics include religion, sexual orientation,
ecological issues, money and even the holidays. Just steer
clear of confrontation and keep things nice while you’re getting
to know each other.
If you find that she doesn’t know how to follow the rules
of positive conversation, bow out and find someone else to
talk to, or she’ll ruin your own good mood. The rules for keeping
things upbeat go both ways and you’re looking for someone with
a positive outlook, too.
Both women and men want to meet people who are positive and
fun to talk to – not depressing, negative or confrontational.
Remember to think of some pleasant openers, smile and show
interest in what your new acquaintance has to say. By doing
this, you’ll make a new friend and you might even find your
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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