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eRomance Series: Online Dating
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Super Secrets To Finding Your Mate
( 17 pages )
Be Clear About What
You Want
"We all know that man is a social being. However man
is also a lonely being.
(And when we say man, we mean women
too).
Man longs for company."
Company not
just from friends and the family, but from that special person
with whom he or she can share those sweet nothings, those
simple pleasures and pains, someone with whom he or she can
build a whole new life, someone with whom he or she can raise
a family of his or her own.
Now this is
a fundamental need of man: to find a life mate. The most
popular method used for this is dating. When we talk about
dating in the very finest sense of the word, please understand
that dating is not to be viewed as a precursor for sleeping
together. It is much more than that. It is the first step
towards choosing a life partner and online dating has made
the whole process a lot simpler.
Marriage
Versus A Casual Relationship
Now what you
do and what you want is entirely your business. I don’t want
to sound nosey but I would like to draw a fine line between
the kind of dating that is involved in these two quests.
Of course we
are all grown up and so let us act like grown ups. Obviously
in a casual relationship we are looking for fun. And mind
you, fun can have a lot of connotations. So here the object
of one’s desire will obviously be a person who is not inclined
towards a serious relationship.
If both parties
are of the same view then it is well and good because they
understand each other perfectly and do not expect much from
such a relationship. This leaves no room for heartbreak.
It is when one
party is in for something more serious and the other party
is into sheer frivolousness that the problems start. So you
should be absolutely clear about what you are looking for
from the start, and you should make your intentions very clear
to the other person.
At the same
time you should have no doubts about the intentions of the
other person as well. Remember, even if it is a casual relationship,
there should be mutual understanding at least about the nature
of the relationship.
Of course, there
is yet another possibility where a casual relationship can
blossom into something more serious. But, again in such cases
it is your instincts that can help you identify what is good
and what is bad.
No matter how
strong a person is, anyone can be taken for a ride or be taken
for granted. Being jilted is never a nice experience. So those
of you who are going in for a casual relationship, for heavens
sake, be on your guard! Marriage is altogether a different
story but we will deal with that later.
Dating Comes From a
Fundamental Need
Let’s face it,
of course sex is important, but sex is by far not the most
important reason for dating.
Maybe during
the age of thoughtless youth, when new hormones are being
pumped in and out, sex is on your mind constantly. But
as you mature (mind you that does not mean growing old
and
gray)
sex takes a back seat and mutual support, likes and dislikes,
cooperation, caring and sharing come to the forefront.
We
start thinking about building up a world of our own and we
need someone to share it with, and not just someone to
sleep
with.
Sex is a fundamental
need of every human being. We all have it in us to give and
receive physical pleasure. But when you sit and think about
it for a minute, you can see that this urge is actually the
result of another urge.
There is a more
primary urge in every human being to breed and produce offspring,
and it is this urge that gives rise to such a powerful sexual
desire. But whatever be the urge, the most dignified means
to satisfy it is dating.
Nobody, not
one of us, is complete without a partner; and it is to satisfy
this need that people date. Because of this, the rest of this
manual will be dedicated not to finding the right sex partner,
but to finding the right life partner.
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