KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Online Dating & Personal Ads:
Sizzling Secrets To Success
( 17 pages )
Step 5: Once Bitten
Many of my readers
might be worried that everything does not work out like has
been described, what would they do? Or in other words if this
first date does not work out what should they do? The answer
is very simple, repeat the whole process again.
Let’s go back
to where we started. Remember, this is a chance to find the
partner for life so we might have to grow many plants before
we get the right harvest.
I am not talking
about two timing here. What I mean is that instead of putting
all your eggs in one basket, keep the avenues open. Don’t
just bank on one person, because if that doesn’t work out,
you might lose heart. You can hope for the best but expect
the contrary as well.
Only the every
lucky ones get the right pick at the first go it self. For
the rest of us, we just have to keep trying till we succeed.
Another advantage of trying out different people is that you
can get to choose. It should not be that you just flipped
for the first guy or girl who came your way. Take you time,
give yourself some breathing space and then make the right
decision.
Nobody can force
you into making a commitment. It should be completely your
choice. Of course, if you get the right cues and something
deep down inside tells you that this is the right person for
you, then what are you waiting for, go ahead and show the
green signal.
But on the other
hand if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment
and you feel hard pressed, gently try to break away. All you
have to do is put your foot down very firmly and tell the
person that you need more time.
However, it
is not good to keep a person waiting indefinitely. Tell the
person that you need perhaps a week’s time or more than that.
But don’t let the person realize that you are checking out
other people. Just tell them that this is probably the most
important decision in your life so you just want to be sure.
Signing
Off
I would like
to add one word about signing off. In case things do not work
out please take care to part gracefully. In such instances
it is not the best decision to say such things over chat.
The other person may put forward some very uncomfortable questions
that you will have a tough time answering.
The best thing
you cold do is send the person an e-mail telling him or her
that he or she was not really what you had in mind, but you
would like to remain good friends all the same.
You do not have
to worry about being pestered by the other person in future;
the “good friends” part never fails. Most people dislike to
be called a good friend after a close encounter. In most cases
the relationship just sizzles out after this. However please
remember that it is indeed bad manners to part with out a
word and just stop answering mails without any information
at all.
Some people
do that because they do not want to offend the other person.
But such callousness is really worse.
So that is all
about it. You know everything that is to be known and the
ball is now well and truly in your courts. So what are you
waiting for, why don’t you go out there and make your presence
felt and come back with the catch of a lifetime.
I don’t think
that we have left any stones unturned and from here I’m sure
that on your first date everything will be well in your control.
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