KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Online Dating & Personal Ads:
Sizzling Secrets To Success
( 17 pages )
Small
Talk
There are few
topics that are best for the initial talks so that an intimacy
is not developed and at the same time you do not have to struggle
for matters of common interest. You can talk about the weather,
sports, movies, music and even food.
But at the same
it is in bad taste to discuss religion, politics and family
matters in the initial stages. You can crack jokes but dirty
jokes are an absolute no-no at least in the first few talks.
Once you have
talked more than once or twice and you feel comfortable with
the person you can give the person your e-mail address but
remember this is the first step towards virtual intimacy so
you have to trust your instincts and nothing else. This takes
things out of the public chat rooms and into the private inboxes.
Beware
of Instant Intimacy
There are many
people who feel that e-mail will never have the warmth or
the personal touch of the old fashioned letters and cards
that people used to send through the postal service. That
may be true but e-mail has an advantage of the here and the
now.
Because you
are aware of the fact that the person you are chatting is
reaching out to you in the same way as you are reaching out
to that person, there is a tendency for an intimacy to build
up even before you know it.
The medium ceases
to be the deciding factor and when a person presses you for
information which you have to supply immediately you might
let certain details slip out unless you are well prepared.
You have to
be on your guard all the time and keep constantly reminding
your self that the person you are chatting with is, after
all a stranger and a goodness-knows-what. The best thing that
you could do is avoid instant intimacy altogether.
It doesn’t really
matter if the other person finds you cold or reserved, you
can easily solve that by telling the other person that it
takes sometime for you to become comfortable with a person.
That in fact is a good quality because it is as good as saying,
“Well, I’m sorry I’m not the loose kind who plays around.”
There is something that many of my readers might want to know
and that is how to find out if the other person is lying.
As I had told you earlier, the Net can be a very unsafe place
and so we have to be absolutely sure about the good faith
of the other person before revealing any personal details
about ourselves. So the next part has been devoted specifically
for that.
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