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Super Secrets To Finding Your Mate
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Footing the Bill
It is a good
idea to decide beforehand and communicate your decision
to
go Dutch, which means that each person should pay for whatever
he or she has. That’s the way that it is supposed to be
because
if nothing comes out of this date you certainly do
not want to be obliged to the person.
When you choose
the place, avoid secluded spots and places that you are not
familiar with. But the ambience is indeed important. You cannot
expect to have a tête-à-tête in a crowded
shopping mall, can you? I think that is about it about your
first date.
Many
Dates
So what happens
if you get more than one offer to date at more or less
the
same time? Or in other words, what happens if you become
close to more than one person at a time? Hey, that is
probably the
very thing you are looking for. You could go on different
dates and then compare for yourself and choose the best
person.
You do not
have to leap for the first person who caught your fancy.
You have
the right to choose, so go ahead and do it. There is no need
to feel guilty about two timing anybody as long as you
do
not promise anyone that you are not seeing anyone else.
And what happens
if you bump into date number one while you are out with
date
number two? Well, all you have to do is treat it as the most
natural thing in the world. Introduce date No.1 to date
No.2
as your friends and watch how they behave. This is an excellent
way of finding out how a jealous husband or wife may behave
in future.
But whatever
happens, a double date, that is going out with two people
together is completely out of the question!
Offline Dating: How To Make That Great Impression
When you are
dating online, you have a lot of things to your advantage.
For example, the other person does not really see you and
you do not really have to bother with appearances. You
can devote your entire energy towards sounding intelligent
and
witty.
But when you
are actually seated in front of a person, there are a thousand
things that you have to pay attention to. There are many people
who believe that it is not really important to keep up appearances.
They feel that it is more important to be oneself.
It sounds good
enough. But on your first date at least you certainly have
to keep up appearances. The other person should not feel
ashamed
to be seen with you and so you should try as hard as
possible to avoid that faux pas.
Let us start
with your physical appearance. While I did mention earlier
that you do not have to be dressed to kill, it is very
important
that you have to appear well groomed. Take special care with
things like nails, hair, and teeth. Check for bad breath
too
because that indeed is the worst turn off.
What you wear
should not be loud and attract the wrong kind of attention.
Choose something that you are comfortable in and at the same
time that looks good on you. Ladies, please be careful about
your make-up, and remember that make-up is meant to accentuate
your looks not to hide it. It is best to avoid garish colors..
You should smell
good of course but don’t over do it. We certainly don’t want
you to remain in the other person’s memory as just one strong
smell. Men, please take care to go in for masculine scents
like musk, or smells from nature. Women, keep it as light
and dainty as possible.
The Secret
is Charm
All the things
that have been said so far are about how you can create a
favorable impression. There is something that is equally or
even more important than that, and that is to make the other
person feel comfortable. Help the other person relax.
You
have been chatting for quite some time so you know
a great
deal about each other. The best thing you can do is to ease
the tension and break the ice. Sometimes the ice gets
so thick
that you can literally feel it. Break it up by cracking a
joke or two.
But the joke
should be spontaneous and in keeping with the situation or
else it will fall flat. Do not rehearse a joke because a rehearsed
joke sounds…well…rehearsed.
The keyword
here is charm. Use all the charm that you can muster.
Try
to be as considerate and as thoughtful as possible. Do not
dominate the conversation but try to get the other person
talking. People generally love to talk about themselves so
try to get the other person talking by asking about the
person’s
work. Show interest in whatever the other person says.
Try to be a
good conversationalist. A good conversationalist is not a
person who talks well, but is one who listens well as well.
So try to be a good listener. And while you are listening
try not to get distracted by something else or the other person
might feel that you are losing interest in what he or she
is saying.
Then comes the
question, “what do you do if you find that the other person
is dominating the conversation?”
Well, in that case listen patiently for a minute or two and
then give a subtle sign like a raised eyebrow or a smile through
the corner of your mouth. If the other person is intelligent
enough, he or she will get the cue. If not, then take your
chance, you might have to listen to this person for the rest
of your life.
Humor rarely
fails. But again take care not to over do it. There is only
one thing worse than a total lack of humor and that is too
much humor.
Gifts?
It is a good
idea to take a gift along with you as that does create
a good
impression, but remember that when you are courting the gifts
should be limited to flowers, chocolates or simple items
only. While you are chatting try to find out what the other
person
likes. You certainly don’t want to give
the person flowers that he or she is allergic to, or a gift
he or she has no interest in.
The object
of your gift should not be to woo the person but to create
a
good and lasting impression. There is no sense in splurging
a lot on your first date for there is no rule that everything
should work out well the first time itself. Do not overdo
it and at the same time do not appear cheap and stingy
either.
However if the
other person has forgotten to bring you a gift, be quick to
reassure the person that it is perfectly alright. Do not let
the other person feel uneasy. In fact, that is a wonderful
way to make the conversation light. You can jokingly tell
the other person to get you a gift the next time.
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