KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Online Dating & Personal Ads:
Sizzling Secrets To Success
( 17 pages )
Step 3: Letting The Relationship
Blossom
Right, so now
we are as ready as we can be with our interests all chalked
out and our profiles posted. It is perfect picture. It is
almost like being seated alone at this posh restaurant, dressed
to kill, with a glass of champagne in one hand and the other
hand swung over the back of the chair. You have a smile on
your lips, a twinkle in your eye and an invitation on your
face.
So what happens
next? This person who appears to be the perfect match for
you catches your eye and saunters towards you. Now what do
you do? Please remember that the description above was pertaining
to a virtual environment. In effect, what we meant is that
while you spend time idling in a chat room, this is the mood
that you are going to generate.
So what happens
when a person takes the cue and starts chatting? Well, that
really is an intelligent question. I would like to make one
thing straight over here. The Internet is like any other highway.
It is not safe until you get to know your way around. So what
I would suggest would be to trust your instincts and proceed
with caution. You can sound like a very warm person but please
be extremely cautious about giving out any personal information.
Nicknames
and Pet names
Let the other
person know that you would prefer to be known by the handle
you use or even better, you could tell the person to call
you a pet name but let the person know that it is indeed a
pet name, because at a later date, if the relationship really
blossoms it doesn’t look nice if you have to say something
like, “Gee, I’m sorry, but my name isn’t really Janice, it
is Heptullah, I guess I lied to you.”
The best thing
in this case would be to let your self be known by the name
of some celebrity. You could call yourself Cinderella or Pocahontas
or Archie, or Betty or Veronica. The chatting has now begun
and you can start exchanging information. Keep to the general
and stay away from the specific.
Helping your Memory
The human brain
is indeed a remarkable thing. It is capable of storing and
processing such a wide range of information that even a supercomputer
would shy away when compared to it. But due to the virtual
explosion of information, our memories have become very selective.
This means that we cannot recollect everything that we hear
or see. Do not trust your memory too much when it comes to
chatting over the net. You might meet a lot of people over
the net and you might chat with a couple of them. So eventually
it might become difficult to remember all of them and their
details as well.
Or even worse
than that is that you might become confused and mix up details.
It would look bad for you if you call a person the wrong name,
or ask the person the wrong details. In such cases where you
have been chatting with a number of persons, for heaven’s
sake jot down the details about each person separately or
create separate files for each person ad store them in your
computer.
When you add
them to your friends list use handles or nicknames that can
help you remember the person the moment you start chatting
at a later date.
Now, in case
you do not really remember the person, then it is unadvisable
to play the guessing game. The other person might get very
offended if you say something like, “Is it Sarah or Mary?”
In such cases when you have a genuine lapse of memory, the
best thing to do is to be honest with the person and say,
“I know we chatted the other day, but I’m terribly sorry,
can you please refresh my memory about you?”
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