KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Online Dating & Personal Ads:
Sizzling Secrets To Success
( 17 pages )
The Web
of deceit
While you might
take some care to conceal your identity it is best not to
lie.
Do not try to
bluff your way through a relationship because at sometime
the whole thing might come out and as we all know, one lie
leads to another and then before you know it the whole relationship
will crash. Be as honest and as frank as you can, taking care
to conceal your identity.
Some one once
said that a friend is some one who knows all about you and
loves you just the same. So there is no need to hide things
about you. Of course you do not have to tell the person every
ghastly, gory detail about yourself, but at the same time
you do not have to conjure up stuff about you that just is
not true.
If at all you
do paint a very rosy picture about yourself, including things
that just are not true, or are far fetched exaggerations,
and the other person does flip for you, in reality you will
be basking in another person’s glory. This picture you have
painted is just not you.
Your
alter ego
When you choose
a handle to identify yourself by, you have to be sharp. Do
not try to attract as many partners as possible. After all,
what are we looking for, quality or quantity? Try to attract
only the kind of people you are interested in and who would
find you interesting.
That is why
we suggested that you use a handle that better defines the
kind of person you are. Do not try to sound like a sex god
or a sex goddess. If you are, let the other person decide
for him self or her self; (it is much better than having the
person come up with statements like “is it in yet?”) So steer
clear of handles like Megastud, Handsomehunk, Superbabe or
Bedlover.
Instead of that you could try handles that gives one an immediate
idea about the kind of person you are. If you are an outdoor
person use something like Natureguy or Naturegirl; if you
are a music freak use something like Musicman or Musicmaid.
If you are into theatre and stuff like that you could choose
a name like Theatreguy or Theatregirl.
The point is
to win over people who are interested in the same stuff as
you are. That of course increases your chances of gelling
with the person.
Brevity
is key
Another crucial
thing about writing your profile is that you should keep it
as brief as possible. Nobody and that means nobody wants to
read through lines and lines of another person’s profile.
If you make it so long winded the person who is reading it
will get the idea that you are the kind of person who would
love to keep on talking about yourself and instead of go on
a date with you, the reader would rather curl up and die.
But that doesn’t
mean that you have to limit the whole thing to just a few
words. A too brief profile would sound as if you do not have
time for all this, but you are just doing it for the heck
of it.
The best style
that you could use would be to be 100% natural. Write your
profile as you would describe yourself to a person directly.
The conversation style has the widest appeal I might add.
Make it simple and stay away from big words and hackneyed
expressions.
You
are Unique
Think about
it for a minute. Look at yourself in the mirror. Do you look
like anyone else that you know? We all look so different though
essentially we have been endowed with the same external characteristics,
which are one nose, one mouth, two eyes and two ears.
So in spite
of having the same building blocks, if we can look so different
why do we have to sound alike? Think about yourself in a different
way. Do not just consider your likes and dislikes when you
are writing your profile, consider your endearing qualities
as well. Endearing qualities, what are those?
Those are those
qualities which make you liked by others. Of course, these
are things that we never bother, about but maybe we should.
So what I would suggest would be to ask your best friends
why they like you. Who knows, their answers just might surprise
you! But at least you will get an idea of what you can include
in your profile.
You could try
out the following exercise to find out what kind of a person
you are. I won’t say that the results are absolutely fool
proof but they certainly might be interesting.
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