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The Web of Deceit: Your Online Profile

While you might take some care to conceal your identity, it is best not to lie.

Do not try to bluff your way through a relationship because at some point the whole thing might come out and as we all know, one lie leads to another and then before you know it the whole relationship crashes. Be as honest and as frank as you can, taking care to conceal your identity.

Someone once said that a friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same. So there is no need to hide things about you. Of course, you do not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detail about yourself, but at the same time you do not have to conjure up stuff about you that just is not true.

If at all you do paint a very rosy picture about yourself, including things that just are not true, or are far fetched exaggerations, and the other person does flip for you, in reality you will be basking in another person’s glory. The picture you have painted is just not you. You'll burn eventually.

Your Alter Ego

When you choose a handle to identify yourself by, you have to be sharp. Do not try to attract as many partners as possible. After all, what are we looking for, quality or quantity? Try to attract only the kind of people you are interested in and who would find you interesting.

That is why I suggest you use a handle that better defines the kind of person you are. Do not try to sound like a sex god or a sex goddess. If you are, let the other person decide for himself or herself; (it is much better than having the person come up with statements like “is it in yet?”) So steer clear of handles like Megastud, Handsomehunk, Superbabe or Bedlover.

Instead of that you could try handles that gives someone an immediate idea about the kind of person you are. If you are an outdoor person, use something like Natureguy or Naturegirl; if you are a music freak use something like Musicman or Musicmaid. If you are into theatre and stuff like that you could choose a name like Theatreguy or Theatregirl.

The point is to win over people who are interested in the same stuff as you are. That, of course, increases your chances of gelling with the person.

Brevity is Key

Another crucial thing about writing your profile is that you should keep it as brief as possible. Nobody, and that means nobody, wants to read through lines and lines of another person’s profile. If you make it so long winded the person who is reading it will get the idea that you are the kind of person who would love to keep on talking about yourself and instead of go on a date with you, the reader would rather curl up and die.

But that doesn’t mean that you have to limit the whole thing to just a few words. A very brief profile will sound as if you do not have time for all this, but you are just doing it for the heck of it.

The best style that you could use would be to be 100% natural. Write your profile as you would describe yourself to a person directly. The conversation style has the widest appeal I might add. Make it simple and stay away from big words and hackneyed expressions.

You Are Unique

Think about it for a minute. Look at yourself in the mirror. Do you look like anyone else that you know? We all look so different though essentially we have been endowed with the same external characteristics, which are one nose, one mouth, two eyes and two ears.

So in spite of having the same building blocks, if we can look so different why do we have to sound alike? Think about yourself in a different way. Do not just consider your likes and dislikes when you are writing your profile, consider your endearing qualities as well. Endearing qualities, what are those?

Those are those qualities which make you liked by others. Of course, these are things that we never bother with, but maybe we should. So what I would suggest is to ask your best friends why they like you. Who knows, their answers just might surprise you! But at least you will get an idea of what you can include in your profile.

You could try out the following "animal" exercise to find out what kind of a person you are. I won’t say that the results are absolutely fool proof but they certainly might be interesting...

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