Dating
a Single Parent
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Years ago the words, “’Til death do us part,”
really meant something but today the institution of marriage
has lost its value. Divorce rates are on the rise and
a child being born out of wedlock is also increasing at an
alarming
rate. These trends have led to a flood of single parents in
the dating scene. It is not uncommon to meet a potential partner
who already has one or more children from a previous relationship.
Dating someone with children is somewhat more complicated than
dating someone who does not have children but if you exercise
common sense and use caution, you can have a wonderful relationship
with your partner and their children. The following tips will
provide some insight into entering a relationship with a single
parent.
One very important tip for dating someone with children is
to refrain from meeting the children unless the relationship
has progressed to a point where the couple is seriously considering
making a further commitment in the relationship. Meeting your
partner’s children is an important step in a relationship but
this step should be reserved for a time when the relationship
is heading in a serious direction. This is for the
sake of the children because it could be very upsetting for them to
get close to their parent’s significant other only to have
the relationship end soon after the child begins to accept
this person into their life. Young children especially may
be searching for someone who can replace their missing parent
and may get their hopes up if they meet their parent’s significant
other. Once you are ready to make a serious commitment in the
relationship though it is definitely time to get to know your
partner’s children so they can get used to the idea that you
are going to be a part of their lives.
Even before you meet your partner’s children, it
is important to be respectful of your partner’s relationship
with their
children. This means that you should not ask your partner to
choose between you and the children if there are scheduling
conflicts. Also, you should understand if your partner has
to cancel a date because their child is not feeling well. Realizing
that your partner is a parent before they are anything else
will help to prevent you from becoming jealous of the attention
that they lavish on their children.
Once
you do meet your partner’s children you may wish to include
them on some of your dates. Planning activities such as trips
to zoos or amusement parks are a good way to include your partner’s
children on a date. These child friendly activities are a great
deal of fun for the children and also have aspects that the
adults can enjoy as well. If the children are old enough to
explore the park or zoo on their own, you can set up a schedule
where the children will have some time to enjoy the location
on their own while the adults enjoy some alone time as well.
You can also include meeting times where the children and adults
get together for some family time as well. For example you
can let the children explore for a couple of hours and then
meet for lunch and a few rides or attractions together. Even
if the children are not old enough to explore on their own,
you can just enjoy the time together as a family and plan on
spending some quality time with your significant other either
later in the day or on another adults only date.
While it is important to plan family friendly dates every
once in awhile, it is equally important to plan dates
that only include you and your partner as well. This is time where
the relationship can really grow. Neglecting to spend time
alone with each other and focusing solely on the children can
be detrimental to the relationship because it takes away from
the intimacy that you share with each other. Having a friend
or family member watch the children one night a week, gives
you and your partner the opportunity to spend some quality
time working on your own relationship.
Dating
someone with children is becoming increasingly common. Even if you don’t have children and have never dated anyone
with children it is important to realize that you may soon
find yourself in the situation where your partner is a parent.
Choosing an opportune time to meet the children, respecting
your partner’s relationship with their children and planning
dates that include the whole family as well as dates that are
just for you and your partner will make dating someone with
children a manageable experience.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2005
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