Should
You Date an Ex-Boyfriend’s Friend?
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
If
your ex-boyfriend had a close group of friends, then you
probably had the opportunity to meet them and foster your own relationships with them during the course
of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend. Women are more
likely than men to foster relationships quickly and to have
a difficult time ending these relationships. For many women
the thought of ending her friendships with her ex-boyfriend’s
friends can seem as depressing as the thought of the romantic
relationship with her ex-boyfriend coming to an end. As a result
of these feelings, many women may find themselves becoming
attracted to a friend of their ex-boyfriend after they break
up. You may feel tempted to enter into a relationship with
one of his friends immediately but before doing so you should
consider the fact that your ex-boyfriend’s friendship with
his friends is not likely to end because you start to date
one of them. You should also consider the fact that your ex-boyfriend
may have shared personal details about your relationship with
his friends that could complicate your new relationship.
Your ex-boyfriend has likely had the same group of friends
for years and it is important that the bond of their friendship
will most likely not be compromised by the fact that you are
dating one of his friends. For this reason you should
be cognizant of the fact that if you are dating one of your
ex-boyfriend’s
friends, you are very likely to see your ex-boyfriend often. For men, spending time with their male friends is one of their
favorite pastimes and this is unlikely to change just because
you are dating one of them and are an ex-girlfriend to another
one. While women may refuse to accept a man who has hurt one
of their friends into their circle of friends, men are much
more forgiving in that aspect. They are doubtful to care or
even notice that this is a situation that could make someone
uncomfortable. For this reason, you should consider your own
feelings and whether or not you think you could be comfortable
in a group of friends that includes your ex-boyfriends. As
your ex-boyfriend is likely to be oblivious to problems that
could stem from you dating one of his friends it is you will
have to take precautions to protect yourself and your feelings
in this situation.
Men
don’t talk, as much about women about their feelings and
their relationships but it is unrealistic to expect that he
did not discuss you at all with his friends. You should consider
this when deciding whether or not to date one of his friends.
It is very likely that his friends have at least some information
about you already and that this information may include very
personal details. If this makes you uncomfortable then it might
not be a good idea to enter into a relationship with one of
your ex-boyfriend’s friends.
If
you decide to date a friend of your ex-boyfriend you should
exercise caution in the relationship. It is not likely that
your ex-boyfriend will express his opinions to your directly
regarding his feelings about you dating his friends so you
may have to rely on your powers of observation to determine
whether or not he is becoming uncomfortable. You will want
to try to avoid hurting his feelings out of respect for the
relationship that the two of you shared while you were dating
as well as to avoid problems in your current relationship.
If he begins to become resentful of your relationship with
his friend he could allow his resentment to affect the way
that he treats you and his friend. This could cause a breakup
between you and your new boyfriend. Try to maintain a sense
of caring and not do anything to intentionally hurt your ex-boyfriend
while you are dating one of his friends.
Deciding
whether or not to date a friend of your ex-boyfriend can
be a difficult decision. You should be comfortable with
the idea of remaining friendly with your ex-boyfriend and you
should not be uncomfortable with the fact that your new boyfriend
may already be privy to some personal information about yourself.
If you do decide to date one of his friends it is important
to be respectful to him and to try to maintain a handle on
how he is feeling. If you ignore him or blatantly try to hurt
him, you could do irreversible damage to your relationship
with him as well as your relationship with your new boyfriend.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2006
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