How
Do You End a Date?
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Asking someone out on a date has long been
considered one of the most intimidating and difficult aspects
of the dating world but knowing how to end a date can also
be very complicated. In many cases it is the last few
moments of a date that make the biggest impression so a fitting
ending
is crucial to the future of the relationship. Whether the date
is going extremely well, faltering or just average, it can
be difficult to find a natural end to the date. It is important
to try to end the date on a good note even if the rest of the
date hasn’t gone very well. Although you may not wish to continue
the relationship and pursue another date, it is still considered
polite to end the date cordially. In addition to ending a date
in a civil manner, it is also important to end the date in
a way that conveys your feelings about future dates. This is
important because you do not want to put yourself in an awkward
situation later because the two of you left the date with different
ideas about your future. Being clear about your feelings will
help to avoid confusion.
Even when a date is going well, it is important to know how
to end the date. Early in a relationship three to four
hours is usually recommended as the maximum time limit for
the date. You may be tempted to allow the date to continue for longer
but doing so runs the risk that things will begin to falter
and that the date will end up concluding on a sour note. Ending
a date before this happens will help to secure the possibility
of future dates as long as both parties are agreeable to this.
The best way to prepare for the ending of a date is
to have a list of activities agreed on. For example, when arranging
the date be specific (about your plans) ask the other person
to join you for a movie and then dinner. This makes the conclusion
of dinner a natural time to end the date because you have already
talked about the agenda for the date and the clear conclusion
of the date was after dinner. If things are going well, you
may want to invite your date to another location for dessert
or coffee but here is where you run the risk of extending the
date to long. If things are going well it is important to end
the date by telling your date how much fun you had and how
you hope to see them again. This makes your opinion of your
future together very clear. If your date responds likewise
you may even wan to make plans for a future date.
When
a date is clearly not going well, it is acceptable to end
the date early. Even if you had made plans for several
activities, if neither of you is having a good time then it
is all right to end the date early. Although it is important
to at least give the date a chance, at some point it becomes
clear that the date is not going to turn around. When you reach
this point, the responsible thing to do is to be honest with
your date let them know that you don’t think the date is going
well and that you don’t think that the two of you are suitable
companions. Being clear about your feelings gives you a simple
way out of the date that makes it obvious that you don’t wish
to pursue the relationship further.
Sometimes
even if you are enjoying the date, it will become obvious
that your partner is not feeling the same way. Although
you may want to continue the date in the hopes that you will
convince them that you area suitable match, it is best to let
them know that you understand their feelings and that if they
wish to end the date, that is fine with you. It’s important
for both members of the date to enjoy themselves so if the
other person is not having a good time and there is nothing
you can do to improve the situation then the mature thing to
do is to tell the other person that although you enjoyed yourself,
you noticed that they did not have a good time and that you
are ready to end the date and that you understand that the
relationship does not have a future.
Ending
a date is never a simple task. Even dates that are
going well for everyone involved can be difficult to end. The
key to ending a date the right way is timing and also reading
your date’s feelings. If one or both of you is clearly not
enjoying the date, it’s best to end the date early and be honest
about your future intentions. When the date is going well,
it is still best to end the date after a pre-determined activity
to ensure that the date does not drag on for too long and wind
up becoming awkward.
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KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2006
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