How
to Demand Respect AND Get It
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Respect, as it applies to people, is defined
as a feeling of esteem for a person. This feeling is generally
a result of a person’s achievements. While all people deserve
respect, it is an unfortunate fact that many people do not
receive the respect that they deserve. There are several ways
however that you can put yourself in a situation where you
will begin to receive the respect that you deserve. In general
the keys to demanding respect and getting it are treating others
with respect, treating yourself with respect, conveying a sense
of confidence, not being afraid to make decisions and dressing
appropriately. These key factors will help you to gain the
respect you deserve.
If you expect others to treat you with respect, one of the
first steps you must take is to begin treating others
with respect if you aren’t already doing so. If you have a disrespectful
attitude towards others it will be difficult for them to feel
respectful towards you. Treating others with respect demonstrates
that you are worthy of respect yourself because it shows that
you are capable of holding others in esteem. If you do not
give others their due respect, many people will see you as
a person who is not compassionate of others and not willing
to understand the value of others. Many bosses will try to
demand respect by being authoritative with their subordinates.
While authority is a characteristic that commands respect,
this is often taken too far and if the boss does not recognize
the employees achievements the employee will most likely be
resentful of the boss and not feel respectful towards him.
On the other hand a boss that maintains an authoritative air
while also being supportive of his employees and willing to
listen to their ideas will gain the respect of his employees.
Treating
yourself with respect is another key element to receiving
respect from others. Self respect is seeing yourself for your
innate worth and acting accordingly by treating yourself with
esteem. It’s important to treat others with respect but by
the same token you must also treat yourself with respect. While
self-deprecating humor may be your way of coping with your
perceived inadequacies this type of behavior demonstrates to
other that you do not feel you are truly worthy of their respect.
In order to gain the respect of others you must first treat
yourself with respect.
Confidence
also inspires a sense of respect. Being confident,
without being arrogant, is a sign that you know your abilities
and past performances are worthy of respect. Knowing that you
are a highly capable person and not being afraid to let others
know this is another way to demand respect and get it. Exercise
caution with using confidence to command respect though. Over
confidence may have the reverse effect and result in you not
receiving respect. Knowing your abilities and being confident
in yourself will go a long way in ensuring that you earn the
respect of those around you.
Decision
making is another aspect that could be a determining
factor in whether or not those around you respect you. This
goes along with confidence in that if you are sure of yourself
you will not hesitate to make the right decisions in any situation.
An ability to make decisions without wavering or being unsure
of yourself will inspire confidence in those around you. While
it’s important to seek advice and counsel from others, if you
are in charge of a situation the decision is ultimately yours
to make. If you make valid decisions without showing signs
of doubt you will be respected for your ability to take a stand
and act on what you believe is right.
Dressing
the part is also very important in earning the respect
of others. While casual clothing may be acceptable in many
work places you will find that those who are in a position
of authority and command respect often dress less casually
than those who are not well respected. While your clothes are
not an accurate indication of your abilities others around
you may jump to conclusions based on your appearance. While
this is a sad fact of life, it’s important to acknowledge that
this does exist in society and take care to always convey a
professional appearance. Doing so will help you to earn the
respect of your friends and colleagues as well as your employer.
Perhaps the most important factor to understand about respect
is that, in most cases, it is not given automatically by others
but that it must be earned. You can earn the respect you deserve
by treating yourself and others with respect, being confident
and unafraid to make important decisions and dressing in a
way that shows that you have respect for yourself. All of these
aspects will help to ensure that you are not only demanding
respect but also getting it.
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KissMeGoodnight.com : 2005
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