How
Do You Ask for a Second Date?
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Asking
for a second date can be just as nerve racking as asking
for a first date. The fear of rejection when
you ask for a first date still exists to a certain degree when
you are asking for a second date. This is because you may be
uncertain whether or not your perception of the first date
was shared by your date. If you aren’t positive that they had
a good time on the first date then you may worry that they
will not welcome the opportunity to go on a second date with
you.
Laying
the groundwork for a second date at the conclusion of the
first date is one way to make asking for a second date
easier. If you enjoyed the first date and suspect that your
date did also, you can try suggesting a second date as you
are saying your goodbyes on the first date. Be honest with
your date about how you had a good time on this first date
and would like to continue the relationship by going on a second
date. Hopefully your date will also be honest in their response
and if they had a good time as well, they will mostly likely
be open to the idea of a second date. You do not have to establish
the details of the second date immediately but finding out
if your date is even interested in a second date can make it
much easier to call them later in the week to officially ask
them out on a second date and suggest specific details for
the date.
Sending
flowers as a thank you for the first date can provide the
opportunity to ask for a second date. If you are interested
in a second date, you might consider sending flowers a few
days after your first date and including a note with the flowers
that tells your date that you had a great time on the first
date and would love the opportunity to have a second date.
Not only is this a sweet way to say thank you for the first
date but also it increases your chances of having your date
agree to go on a second date with you. The other great part
about this technique is that prevents you from having to ask
for the second date face to face. This is especially helpful
in the situation where you are not completely positive that
your date enjoyed them as much as you did on the first date.
A
similar way to ask for a second date is to send your date
a souvenir that is intended to remind them of your first date. For example if you attended a concert on your first date, you
might consider sending your date a copy of the band’s latest
CD along with the ticket stubs from the concert. You can conclude
a card with the gift that tells your date what a great time
you had on the first date and how you hope to have the opportunity
for a second date.
You
can also use a casual get together as an opportunity to
ask for a second date. You might consider asking your date
to meet you for coffee one afternoon. The two of you can discuss
your previous date over coffee and you can take this opportunity
to ask your partner out on an official second date. Although
some may argue that getting together for coffee is a second
date, you can look at that as kind of a test for whether or
not your partner will say yes to another official date. Chances
are that if they are willing to meet you for coffee than they
would be willing to go on a second date with you. Meeting to
talk about a second date also gives you and your partner the
opportunity to plan the second date in detail together. You
can talk about where and when you would like your next date
to take place so that you each have a chance to offer your
input.
A
second date is very rarely guaranteed so asking for a second
date includes a risk of rejection. Whether you choose to ask
for your second date by sending a gift or meeting in person,
you may find yourself being rejected. It is important remember
that even if you perceived the first date as going very well
your date may have not felt the same way.
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