What
is True Unconditional Love?
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Unconditional
love is given without any expectations, limitations or
any other definitions. In other words when you
love someone unconditionally you do so without expectations
that the sentiment will be returned, without placing restrictions
or conditions under which the love will be expressed and without
establishing defining parameters for when, where or why the
love is felt or expressed. There are many examples of relationships
where the love is unconditional. The love between romantic
partners, parent and child, siblings and even friends can all
be examples of unconditional love. The most important factors
of unconditional love are that it is completely free of restrictions
or expectations.
In giving unconditional love, it
is important that you have no expectations of reciprocation. You offer your love freely
and do not demand that the feeling be returned. Unconditional
love is about you and your feelings and does not involve trying
to create the same feelings in another person. While you may
hope and wish that the feeling is returned, truly unconditional
love does not hold any expectations that a mutual feeling exists.
If you hold the expectation that your love for the other person
is going to eventually be reciprocated and your love endures
based on this expectation then it is not truly unconditional
love. One example of unconditional love without any expectations
is the love between a parent and child. A parent may love their
child unconditionally and while the feeling may be reciprocated
by the child, the parent’s love will endure regardless of how
the child feels. Your unconditional love exists even if the
other person does not have reciprocal feelings towards you
or any intentions of ever having such feelings.
Unconditional
love also exists without any restrictions or limitations
under which the feeling will remain. Truly unconditional
love endures any transgression imaginable. When you give your
unconditional love, you do so knowing that the actions or words
of the other person will not result in this loving feeling
being revoked. Even intentional acts meant to hurt you are
overlooked when they are inflicted by someone with whom you
have an unconditional love. Also, unconditional love is not
used to attempt to control the actions of another. Telling
someone that they will lose your love if they do things you
do not approve of is not unconditional love. Romantic partners
often have a feeling of unconditional love. When this exists
in the relationship, neither partner uses their love to control
the other or threatens to revoke the love if their demands
are not met.
Truly unconditional love is given
without any defining parameters. When unconditional love is given, it is done so without the
understanding that the love will only endure as long as certain
conditions exist. Unconditional love exists without thought
of setting definitions or other limitations on the love surviving.
Siblings are good examples of unconditional love that exists
without any definitions. While siblings may fight throughout
their lifetime there is a bond that is present always and is
never challenged. Siblings may become angry with each other
but their unconditional love transcends all boundaries and
survives through countless arguments and misunderstandings.
Those who have an unconditional love for another always
want the best for the one they love and allow them to be
free to
seek what will truly make them happy. Unconditional love involves
wanting the best for the person you love and understanding
that they need to be free and make their own choices to achieve
this level of happiness. While you may believe that you know
what is best for your loved one, it’s important to let them
learn things on their own and pursue opportunities and experiences
that they believe will make them happy. They may end up making
wrong choices but if you love them unconditionally you will
always be there for them and will not judge their actions.
Unconditional love is truly free of any expectations, limitations
or definitions. This is a love that holds your loved ones best
interests and happiness above all other things including your
own happiness. When you offer your love unconditionally it
is important to realize that you have no right to expect that
your feelings will be returned or that your loved one will
act and speak according to guidelines you set forth.
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