When
Communication in Your Relationship
Breaks Down
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
One of the most crucial elements in any relationship
is communication and when communication breaks down its imperative
that you find out the cause of the breakdown so that you can
try to fix the problem before it destroys the relationship.
Communication can break down in a relationship for
a variety of reasons including the birth of a baby, financial strains
and distrust in the relationship. Regardless of the cause of
the communication break down, it is vital to the health of
the relationship to reopen the lines of communication.
While the birth of a couple’s first child may be a glorious
and blessed event that they were both looking forward to, the
arrival of a new baby may put strains on the relationship. Specifically there may be a communication break down after
the baby’s birth. There are a number of reasons why communication
breaks down after the birth of a baby. The addition of a new
element into the relationship that previously included just
the two partners can be stressful. While they don’t begrudge
the attention that their partner lavishes on the new baby it
does take an adjustment period to deal with the fact that they
no longer have their partner’s undivided attention. As the
couple learns to balance their time and ensure that both their
partner and their child are receiving enough of their attention,
there may be a period where the stress of making this adjustment
causes a break down in communication. Also, typically the birth
of a baby leads to a complete change of schedule as well as
a stretch of sleep deprivation for the couple. While the couple
may have previously been used to doing things as they please,
they now realize that most activities must be planned around
the baby’s schedule which is often unpredictable. This new
scheduled coupled with the lack of sleep that typically plagues
new parents can put a great deal of pressure on the relationship.
To avoid this type of communication break down it is important
for the couple to realize that they need to allot time to spend
with the baby and also with each other. They also need to realize
that the sleep deprivation is affecting them both and take
turns getting up with the baby. These few simple steps can
go a long way in reversing or preventing a communication break
down. Although a new couple loves their new baby, the challenge
of adapting to the baby’s schedule can be one reason why communication
breaks down in a relationship and it is up to the couple to
ensure that their relationship does not suffer a communication
break down.
A
concern over financial matters is another reason why communication
breaks down. Struggling with financial issues can be extremely
stressful for either one or both partners in a relationship.
If one partner typically handles the finances in a relationship
they may not wish to worry their partner so they may struggle
internally with the financial concerns. While this is a noble
gesture, it can also cause a communication break down in the
relationship. The one partner may feel that this is a burden
they need to bear on their own and therefore avoid talking
about the subject with their partner. The problem with this
is that in trying to avoid conversations regarding finances
they may end up avoiding conversations all together. For example,
a conversation about where to go out to dinner may be avoided
because thinking about spending too much money on leisure activities
causes too much anxiety on one of the partners. The partner
who is unaware of the financial concerns may be offended by
their partner’s avoidance of a simple conversation. One way
to avoid or reverse having a communication break down over
finances is to share the responsibility of the finances and
openly discuss concerns over financial matters. Doing this
will ensure that neither partner becomes consumed by financial
matters and allows it to affect the relationship. Finances
can induce enough stress to destroy even the most secure relationships
by causing a communication break down but planning ahead and
speaking openly about finances can help a couple to avoid a
communication break down.
Distrust
is another factor that can affect communication in a relationship. If one of the partners has a reason to be suspicious
of the other it creates a distrust that directly affects communication.
Also, if one person has a reason to feel guilty in a relationship,
it may result in a break down in communication. This lack of
trust or guilt often results in the couple not wanting to communicate
either because they don’t want to have their suspicions confirmed
or because they don’t want their secret to be revealed. These
feelings of suspicion or guilt may lead to strained conversations
that are purposefully not very meaningful. One way to avoid
a break down in communication in this situation is to always
be upfront with your partner. Whether it’s suspicion or guilt
that is driving your fear of communication, being honest with
your partner will alleviate your fears and reopen the lines
of communication. You run the risk of having your suspicions
confirmed but it’s better to be sure than to destroy your relationship
while doubt remains.
Since open and honest communication is critical to a healthy
relationship, it’s important to understand why communication
breaks down and work to avoid a break down in communication.
Having an understanding of the causes of communication break
down will help you to either avoid or reverse this situation.
Maintaining or restoring communication can ensure that a relationship
endures and thrives.
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KissMeGoodnight.com : 2005
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