Why
Men Cheat in a Relationship
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
The reasons why men cheat in a relationship
are often different than the reasons why women cheat. A man’s
reason for cheating can encompass a wide variety of reasons
including genetics, a sense of challenge, self esteem and a
lack of interest in their current relationship. While none
are justifiable all of these can be reasons why a man chooses
to stray and cheat on his current partner.
Although genetics may factor into why men cheat on their partner
it may also just be a week defense for a man who is caught
in his unfaithful actions. A theory exists that testosterone
levels in men make them more susceptible to infidelity. This
theory is based on the hypothesis that men are genetically
predisposed to cheating because they are ingrained with the
notion that the survival of the species is dependent on their
procreation. While this may be true it is certainly not an
excuse for unfaithfulness in our age of overpopulation. It
may be true that in prehistoric times, men were tasked with
populating the earth this is certainly not true today and is
not a defensible excuse for cheating on your partner. The truth
is that in a truly loving relationship a man should be able
to control himself and remain faithful despite any hormonal
urges to produce offspring. The theory of man being predisposed
to cheating does not hold water because while it may be true,
there is no excuse for not being able to quell these urges.
Another
reason men cheat is because they feel a sense of challenge
in their infidelity. Actually being able to get away with an
affair is a challenge that men enjoy. Additionally they enjoy
the challenge of finding other women with which to cheat. To
them the affair is more about the conquest then anything else.
Sure they may enjoy the physicality of the affair, but the
pursuit and sneaking around is what really drives men who cheat
on their partners. They see fooling their partner as a tremendous
accomplishment and they enjoy the logistics of orchestrating
the affair without their partner learning of their transgressions.
To them the thrill of sneaking around and the fear of being
caught creates and adrenaline rush that is more important than
the affair or even their current relationship. Men also cheat
because they are driven by competition. If there friends are
single or cheating on their partners and often have affairs
with several women the man may feel that he needs to keep up
with his friends. To these men affairs become a way of competing
with their friends. Infidelity in men is often driven by a
sense of competition.
Many
men also engage in affairs because doing so is an ego boost
for them. The knowledge that they can find multiple women
willing to engage in an intimate relationship with them is
a tremendous self esteem builder for some men. They take pride
in the ability to attract women and don’t care about the fact
that doing so may destroy their relationship. To these men
the excitement of the chase is almost more important than the
conquest. Sometimes just knowing that other women find them
desirable, is enough to stroke the ego of these men. In general
it is a lack of self esteem on their part that drives them
to seek out affairs in order to reiterate their attractiveness
and desirability.
A
man who is in an undesirable relationship may also be driven
to cheat on their partner. If the relationship has begun to
wane and the man no longer feels the same attraction to his
partner he may seek out an affair out of boredom. If he feels
his current relationship is lacking excitement he may also
be driven to cheat in the hopes that he will find the excitement
he desires elsewhere. While the wise thing may be to end the
deteriorating relationship in search of a new more desirable
partner, many men opt to hold onto the current relationship
and engage in affairs. This may be because they fear that they
may not find what they are looking for and may be left lonely
and without a partner so they hold onto the failing relationship
figuring that a bad relationship is better than none at all.
Men cheat for a
variety of reasons. While none of these reasons may be justified,
they do exist. The reasons that men cheat
include genetics, competition, self esteem and boredom. In
general while genetics may play a small part in the urge for
men to cheat the majority of cheating takes place because men
cannot control their sexual and competitive urges, are lacking
in self esteem or are unhappy in their current relationship.
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KissMeGoodnight.com : 2005
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