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What
Are The Typical Causes For Divorce?
It’s been noted that one of the main things
that leads to divorce is marriage. Ridiculous statement, but
true. And, as ridiculous and true as it may be, people will
continue to marry and will continue to divorce.
Perhaps, you say to yourself, if we live together before marriage
and get to know each other and iron out all our problems, then
the marriage will be perfect. According to studies, this is
not true. Couples who practice cohabitation before committing
to marriage are more likely to divorce than those who don’t.
But you tell yourself that your parents divorced and you’re
from a broken home, so you know the pitfalls to watch for and
avoid. You’ve witnessed what happens when two people fall out
of love and the arguments that ensue. Since you’ve been there
and done that at least from an affected bystander point of
view you’re a pseudo expert on the subject of divorce.
Wrong again! Couples
who come from broken homes are more likely to get a divorce. Studies show that these people who’ve seen
this view divorce as no big deal rather than something they
must avoid at all costs. It’s almost as though they’ve had
on job training and know exactly the steps to take to end a
relationship.
The reason for a dissolved marriage is unique to each. What
may cause one relationship to crumble may seem perfectly natural
to another. But, it seems the number one cause for divorce
is lack of communication.
This could be coupled with a lack
of commitment. When there
is no talking with each other and no dedication to make the
marriage work then there is little or no hope to save a marriage.
Lack of communication with a little commitment is one of the
easiest causes to avoid. Sit down and just talk with each other
and be open to other points of view.
Infidelity is another cause high on the list and one of the
most difficult to resolve. If both of you work to care for
each other’s needs and build a perfect home life then maybe
no one will stray. It would seem so, but it still happens.
The term abuse encompasses so many causes including alcohol,
drugs, emotional and even sexual abuse. If either partner is
guilty of administering or succumbing to these abuses, it’s
likely only professional help will prevent a divorce. Seek
help as soon as the problem is observed. It’s not often a person
can cure him or her self.
The list for divorce causes is long. Sex
and money rank high
on the list as well. If you have too little of either of these
things it could cause problems. These two things are best discussed
before marriage but feelings and needs can change after living
together.
We’ve only scratched the surface on typical causes for divorce.
Briefly, a few of the others are personality and cultural
differences,
lack of maturity and different views
on children and division
of labor, such as who’s supposed to do what around the home.
Marriage is like walking through a minefield - one wrong step
and the whole thing blows up. It’s likely the best way to avoid
a divorce is to be aware of the main cause and communicate. Click
here for powerful, proven methods to get your
marriage back on track. Learn the 6 most common reasons for
divorce and
what you can do to stop it. It is my KissMeGoodnight recommendation
- and highly suggested.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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