KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Save My Marriage
Uh Oh. I Need To Save My Marriage...NOW!
Does
My Marriage Need Help?
There are few marriages that do not need help
in maintaining their relationship. A marriage without a good
relationship is probably a marriage that’s not going to last.
If it does last, those involved are usually not very happy
and content.
What’s the difference between a marriage and a relationship,
you might ask. A marriage is a bond formed by two people in
holy matrimony; and in the eyes of man and the law they are
united and only death or divorce can separate them.
A relationship is a meaningful feeling that’s formed after
marriage and will continue to grow and deepen as long as the
marriage is maintained. Relationships should actually begin
long before the wedding vows are given.
It’s
easy to tell if your marriage needs relationship help although
others may notice it long before you. Tell tale signs
include going to functions but going alone and offering excuses
for the spouse not attending.
If you are together, you’re constantly criticizing each other
and complaining about numerous petty annoyances. Or, it can
go to the other extreme and you sit with each other but never
talk. No matter what the other does or talks about, it’s boring
and uninteresting.
Other signs of a declining relationship might be a dramatic
lack of interest in the intimacy department. You’re both young
and attractive, yet the spark isn’t there anymore while you
fantasize about others.
Affection from your relationship is not existent. There are
no hugs, no kisses and no one says I love you. Human beings
need to be touched to feel worthy, happy and satisfied. If
the touching is gone then there is a serious problem with your
marriage.
Jealousy can be a turn off for your partner if carried to
extremes. For the person who’s jealous he or she may withdraw
from being intimate because they may view their partner as
being unfaithful. For the person who’s being accused of wrong
doing, they could also hold back feelings being tired of the
constant badgering of jealous questions.
Be sure you’re not exaggerating the situation while establishing
ground rules for both of you to abide by. If jealousy is a
continuing problem and is growing, you should seek help. If
intimacy is to return in your relationship, jealousy has to
be curtailed.
Relationship problems can arise from debt. Lack of enough
money in a marriage is always cause for concern but two people
working together on a budget to live within their means can
overcome a small income.
It’s when one or both spend too much money and the marriage
begins to drown in debt that the relationship also begins to
sink. Debt can literally drain the life blood from a once loving
relationship.
All marriages suffer day to day problems in their relationship.
Conflicts and disagreements are common and should be expected.
Just take a relationship inventory from time to time to determine
if you and your spouse are where you want to be. If adjustments
are necessary make them and move forward.
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KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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