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How
To Feel The Love Again
There was a time when you were both in sync
with each other’s wants and needs – when the relationship was
young and ripe and you were both learning new and exciting
secrets about the other.
But time happens. During the extent of your relationship you
may have gotten engaged, married, had children, or just became
bored with the same old routine that you’ve fallen into. So,
what can you do to ignite the passion you once had in your
relationship?
First, you need to take a scrutinizing look at what may have
happened to squelch the passion – then, make a commitment to
change it and get back that loving feeling. Your relationship
must be a number one priority for both of you. In today’s world
of multi-tasking, that may be a huge task to undertake. But,
if you are committed to each other and saving the relationship
– it’s so worth it.
You may be married, with children, and spend most of your
evenings centered around the kids’ activities and their homework.
Being a good mom and dad is important, but so is your sex life.
There are some changes you might consider, such as putting
the kids to bed earlier. Rather than watching television, turn
it off, have a glass of wine and discuss the good parts of
the day or some things you appreciate about your partner. And,
by all means, turn out the lights and go to bed together.
Talk
to your partner if you or he has lost the sex drive that
was once a huge part of the relationship before time happened.
He may be reluctant to talk about it at first, but if you sincerely
express that you want to put some passion back into your union
and have some suggestions about how to do it, your partner
will more than likely become more enthusiastic and join in
the conversation. Listen to him. And, be sure to talk about
your own concerns and fears, wants and needs.
Flirt
with your partner. Surprise him with unexpected and
romantic little things, like leaving a love letter on the seat
of his car before he goes to work. Sprinkle rose petals from
the door to the bedroom when he arrives from work or a trip
and have a warm bubble bath ready for him. This type of thoughtful
planning is fun, inexpensive and out of the ordinary. It’s
the unexpected that tends to make our hearts beat a little
faster.
Write
letters to your partner. Sometimes, it’s difficult to
say what we feel, but writing letters from your heart can express
honest feelings in ways that the spoken word never could.
Express your deepest secrets and dreams for your lives together
(keeping in mind how far along you are in the relationship),
and especially tell him how important he is to you. No one
can read minds – so he may not know how you really feel until
you tell him – or write it down for him.
Sometimes, the demands in our lives far exceed the time put
aside to spend with our partners. For some couples, pre-planned
“date nights” is the answer to making time for each other.
The special
night doesn’t have to be elaborate. Watching a
movie while eating popcorn in your own living room can be a
great way to keep romance in your relationship. Taking a walk
around the neighborhood or along the beach can also be romantic
and revealing when you talk about the love you feel for each
other. Schedule a date night as you would any activity – mark
it on your calendars so that neither will forget it – and you
can both look forward to it.
Become
friends with your partner. Even more important than
being lovers is becoming friends with each other. If you’re
able to lean on each other in bad times and laugh during good
times, the relationship will thrive.
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KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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