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How To Feel The Love Again

There was a time when you were both in sync with each other’s wants and needs – when the relationship was young and ripe and you were both learning new and exciting secrets about the other.

But time happens. During the extent of your relationship you may have gotten engaged, married, had children, or just became bored with the same old routine that you’ve fallen into. So, what can you do to ignite the passion you once had in your relationship?

First, you need to take a scrutinizing look at what may have happened to squelch the passion – then, make a commitment to change it and get back that loving feeling. Your relationship must be a number one priority for both of you. In today’s world of multi-tasking, that may be a huge task to undertake. But, if you are committed to each other and saving the relationship – it’s so worth it.

You may be married, with children, and spend most of your evenings centered around the kids’ activities and their homework. Being a good mom and dad is important, but so is your sex life.

There are some changes you might consider, such as putting the kids to bed earlier. Rather than watching television, turn it off, have a glass of wine and discuss the good parts of the day or some things you appreciate about your partner. And, by all means, turn out the lights and go to bed together.

Talk to your partner if you or he has lost the sex drive that was once a huge part of the relationship before time happened. He may be reluctant to talk about it at first, but if you sincerely express that you want to put some passion back into your union and have some suggestions about how to do it, your partner will more than likely become more enthusiastic and join in the conversation. Listen to him. And, be sure to talk about your own concerns and fears, wants and needs.

Flirt with your partner. Surprise him with unexpected and romantic little things, like leaving a love letter on the seat of his car before he goes to work. Sprinkle rose petals from the door to the bedroom when he arrives from work or a trip and have a warm bubble bath ready for him. This type of thoughtful planning is fun, inexpensive and out of the ordinary. It’s the unexpected that tends to make our hearts beat a little faster.

Write letters to your partner. Sometimes, it’s difficult to say what we feel, but writing letters from your heart can express honest feelings in ways that the spoken word never could.

Express your deepest secrets and dreams for your lives together (keeping in mind how far along you are in the relationship), and especially tell him how important he is to you. No one can read minds – so he may not know how you really feel until you tell him – or write it down for him.

Sometimes, the demands in our lives far exceed the time put aside to spend with our partners. For some couples, pre-planned “date nights” is the answer to making time for each other.

The special night doesn’t have to be elaborate. Watching a movie while eating popcorn in your own living room can be a great way to keep romance in your relationship. Taking a walk around the neighborhood or along the beach can also be romantic and revealing when you talk about the love you feel for each other. Schedule a date night as you would any activity – mark it on your calendars so that neither will forget it – and you can both look forward to it.

Become friends with your partner. Even more important than being lovers is becoming friends with each other. If you’re able to lean on each other in bad times and laugh during good times, the relationship will thrive.

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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2009

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