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Why
Jealousy Has Destroyed Many Good Marriages
Jealousy is that green eyed monster that’s
hiding in the deep recesses of an insecure mind and once it
gets loose it’s hard to control. Jealousy has destroyed many
marriages and those that survived went through a period of
anger and resentment. When a spouse is jealous, he can make
the other spouse miserable as well as making friends and family
uncomfortable.
Jealousy is an emotion that’s within you. It’s within us all
but most of us control this emotion with trust and respect.
Heaven help the person when jealousy gets the upper hand.
Usually, there’s no cause for jealousy and the emotion surfaces
because you have no trust in yourself. You have feelings of
insecurity and inadequacy and don’t believe anyone could possibly
be satisfied with only you.
People who suffer from jealousy are also typically selfish.
They’re only concerned about themselves and what can be done
for them. They view their spouse’s attention to someone or
something else as a sign of not caring for them. A selfish
and jealous person doubts they themselves could the trusted
if the temptation arises and that doubt is demonstrated with
distrust and jealousy.
The issue of trust can arise daily as we go about our everyday
routine. We’re away from each other and come in contact with
others. This is viewed by a jealous person as an opportunity
for a spouse to stray and they do everything possible to prevent
that.
A few jealousy possessed persons resort to following their
spouse and even threaten them in front of others. It’s an embarrassing
situation that’s followed by a barrage of questions on what
actually transpired during the encounter.
Has your spouse ever cheated on you and given you reason not
to trust them? Truth be known, probably nothing is going on
to merit your distrust. If your marriage is to survive, you
must develop the virtue of trust. Show you love them enough
to trust them. Trust, like jealousy, is an emotion that’s within
you. Which emotion you use is up to you.
Jealousy
leads to possessiveness. The only way you possess
anything is to give it freedom. This is true with animals as
it is with humans. It’s especially true in marriage. If someone
is going to cheat in a marriage, they’re more likely to do
so in one that’s not happy. Trust someone and they’ll respect
you. It’s not likely they’ll do anything to hurt someone they
respect and love.
Seek the truth and believe the truth being told to you. If
you discover later that you were right in your suspicions,
then you’re no worse off. A person who desecrates the vows
of marriage by straying is never truly happy within themselves.
You, by being trusting and faithful are experiencing a happy
and joyful marriage. Find comfort in knowing your worst suspicions
are rarely realized.
Jealousy is a strong emotion that’s sometime impossible to
control. If this is the case, seek help from family and friends.
This is often not enough and professional help is required.
Believe in yourself and defy that monster to show its ugly
green eyes.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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