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Marriage
Problems - Advice for Men
Men like to think of themselves as dragon
slayers. If a wife is having a big problem with a project,
the husband is right there to help. Most men usually bring
home the paycheck and enjoy the feeling of being the prime
provider. They’ve made sure the home is nice, the family is
clothed and food is on the table.
All the necessary things are taken care of and you can relax
with a beer and TV remote in your hand. Or, better yet, stop
by the men’s club (or local bar) and swap stories with the
guys. No need to call the wife. She’s too busy to talk anyway
while taking care of the kids and getting dinner ready. Everything
is fine and as it should be.
If you’re a husband and this sounds familiar, you might want
to take stock of how your marriage is doing. How long have
you been in this routine? Is this how it was from day one of
your marriage or did you gradually slip into this scenario
and it felt so good you didn’t want to change.
Yeah,
the wife complained once in a while, but what wife doesn’t?
You may have been there physically for the little woman but
emotionally you were somewhere else. A good marriage requires
both partners to be there for each other physically and emotionally.
Maybe
it’s time to reinvent your marriage and make it a union
with shared happiness and responsibilities. Maybe it’s time
to sit down with your wife and ask her if she’s happy and if
she’d want you home more. Don’t talk to your wife but talk
with her. Communication is a two way conversation with each
listening to the other’s points of view.
Commit to making yours a better marriage and it may be the
best thing you’ve ever done. The guys don’t even have to know
but it may show in your new attitude about life and love. It’s
not a sissy thing to do. As a matter of fact, you may feel
more macho than you’ve felt in a long time.
Start
with remembering those special days. Keeping a list
would be wise such as anniversaries and birthdays. Include
smaller but sentimental times you’ve shared together that only
the two of you would remember. Do something special on that
day. At least send a card and a little original poetry would
be nice. You might cook her a meal for a change or take her
to dinner.
Toast
your wife when you sit down to eat. No alcohol necessary.
It’s the thought that counts. Tell at least one thing you love
about her. A toast doesn’t have to be saved for special occasions
either.
Make room for romance in your life with the love of your life.
Break up your routine and be more spontaneous. Do something
thoughtful for your wife everyday, or at least often.
Compliment her and do it sincerely. Take photos of your times
together and surprise her with an album of memories later.
The secret to a happy marriage lies in learning to value your
wife’s needs and desires as much as you do your own. She’s
the one you picked to share your life with. It’s largely up
to you to make it enjoyable and worthwhile.
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: 2009
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