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Marriage
Problems - Advice for Women
As the old song goes, “Thank heaven for little
girls, they grow up is such a delightful way.” And, when they
grow up (and even before) they’re oh so different from men.
Thank Heaven for the difference. It’s the difference that leads
to marriage and also the difference that leads to marriage
problems.
The
sooner a bride realizes her husband doesn’t think or act
like she does the sooner she’ll be on the way to a happy and
long lasting marriage. As a woman you probably think life could
be so simple if he would just see things your way. But, you
must strive to see things from his point of view as well because
he probably thinks the same thing.
Men need their space but at the same time they need and even
crave your attention. It’s a fine line between providing
a man his space and giving him attention. You give too much
attention and he claims you’re smothering him. You give him
too little and you’re accused of lack of interest. It’s a
wise woman indeed who can tell the difference.
Marriage
is full of stress and things that have to be done.
Managing a home and a husband should qualify you for any job
you want. You both may work and that leaves less time for each
other by the time housework is done and bills are paid. It
you have children, it’s even harder.
Some men don’t handle stress well and this can be misinterpreted
as lack of interest in the wife. This is not necessarily so.
Don’t be shy in putting your cards on the table. You must communicate
if problems are to be resolved. If you’re seriously concerned
about where your marriage is going, nip it in the bud by determining
when the downslide began.
Has
your lifestyle changed? Ask yourself if you drifted apart
soon after the children came or you began volunteering three
nights a week. Are you going out with the girls too much or
having them over and invading his privacy? Don’t make the mistake
of comparing him with your friend’s husbands. Your husband
may be humble but he likes to feel like the king of his castle.
One of women’s main complaints is that the husband is not
romantic anymore. Signs that this is a problem in the making
are shorter conversations and only about things that must be
discussed.
He refuses to talk about dreams or long range plans. If he
doesn’t call you on the phone like he used to, watch out. When
the flirting is gone and the kisses get more perfunctory it’s
time to take action.
Don’t allow your husband’s lack of interest in intimacy to
grow. It could mean there is someone else but it could also
mean that he thinks you no longer find him desirable. Most
men love it when the wife is at times aggressive and becomes
his lover instead of his wife.
Never forget how deeply you love your husband even if he’s
asked for a divorce. It’s never too late to salvage a relationship.
He can’t read your mind so tell him how you feel how much you
love and need him. It may be just what he’s waiting to hear.
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: 2009
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