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Article Series: Save My Marriage
Uh Oh. I Need To Save My Marriage...NOW!
Do
We Need Marriage Counseling?
Whether you’ve been married one week, one
year or ten years all marriages have their ups and downs, their
good times and bad. But, gradually you notice your marriage
deteriorating day by day. The little things your spouse does
that you used to think were cute now annoy you to the point
of screaming and wanting out.
At least you’re noticing the problems. In some marriages,
problems fester and grow like a cancer without noticing. When
they’re finally realized and admitted, it’s too late and not
even open heart surgery will help.
So, how do you heal a broken heart? Do you talk to your spouse,
your friends or do you seek the help of a professional? How
do you know if you need marriage counseling? It may be difficult
for you to share your innermost feelings with a stranger. Surely,
no one can feel or understand what you’re feeling.
Professional marriage counselors have heard it all and are
trained to listen, understand and suggest treatment to mend
that broken heart that was once filled with love. If you’re
experiencing hopelessness and helplessness and you feel there
is no way to continue in your marriage, a counselor may be
the answer.
If you’re still reluctant to seek professional help you need
to create a climate of self understanding within yourself.
Be certain in your own mind and heart that the fear and problems
you feel are real and not just a point in your life where you’re
experiencing complicated change.
Search your heart for the answer to this question: Have you
considered divorce? If the answer is yes, then you may need
more help than you’re able to give yourself. But, don’t stop
there. There are other questions to consider regarding your
marriage behavior.
Do
you trust your partner? Could there be another person involved?
If this is the case then counseling can certainly help. Adulterous
marriages can leave the other feeling unwanted and unworthy
of continuing the marriage. Counselors can sort through this
problem and even help you forgive the wrong done to you.
Do
you criticize each other at home and in public? This can
be a struggle for control caused by a lack of self esteem.
You want to show others you’re good enough for your spouse
because he or she is imperfect.
Other questions to be considered can be about sharing responsibilities
with household chores and children. Is money a problem? If
you feel that whatever you earn is yours and not ours then
that could lead to a misunderstanding about the future of your
marriage and whether or not you view it as a long term relationship.
There are many other questions to be asked and answered before
you make a decision to seek counseling. Ask these questions
with your partner and if problems cannot be resolved then it
may be time to see a counselor. Before a marriage ends both
should open their hearts and minds and ask for help. Click
here for powerful, proven methods to get your
marriage back on track. Learn the 6 most common reasons for
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what you can do to stop it. It is my KissMeGoodnight recommendation
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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