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Article Series: Save My Marriage
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Why
Does A Marriage Require Work?
To
achieve anything worthwhile takes work. Why should marriage
be any different? Years of your life are spent in school preparing
to obtain
the job you want or the career you want to pursue. If you wanted
to excel in sports, art or singing, you were willing to work
at it and spend endless hours practicing. It wasn’t work -
it was a joy.
Whatever your dream, nothing would stop you from tirelessly
working to achieve your goal even if it meant foregoing certain
pleasures and taking extra classes. You studied and read every
book you could find to help you get better and eventually become
the person you wanted to be.
Marriage should be approached with as much zeal. Unfortunately,
most people who try their hand at marriage think it’s a learn
as you go project. They “wing it” on a day-to-day basis and
fail to see the mistakes made along the way until it ends in
separation or divorce. It’s no secret that more than half of
all marriages end in divorce and many others are miserably
unhappy.
Marriage is not taken seriously anymore or at least not for
long. As soon as the passion and dedication of the wedding
vows fade into the bliss of the honeymoon, couples say well
if it doesn’t work out it’s no big deal to go our separate
ways.
If children are involved this is certainly not so, but divorce
can also have more far reaching effects on others as well.
This includes not only your immediate family but friends as
well on both sides of the marriage.
With
marriage comes responsibility. Couples would do well
to repeat their wedding vows occasionally, especially the part
that says for better or worse. So often when a marriage gets
tough with a loss of job, poor health or unexpected expenses,
the stress begins to build and you look for a way out. Marriage
has become too much about what you can do for me, rather than
what we can do for each other.
Divorces are too easy to come by. More work should have gone
into the engagement period which most times are all too brief.
The longer the engagement the more you can learn about your
partner.
If there are little things (or big things) that annoy you
it’s better to discover them before the vows are said. Going
into marriage thinking you can change someone most of the time
is a fairy tale.
Just like you prepare for a career, you should prepare for
marriage. Premarital counseling could be extremely beneficial.
It not only brings couples closer but enables them to discover
what the other person is seeking or expects in a relationship.
In a counseling situation most feel more comfortable sharing
their feelings with a professional present.
Enter into the sanctity of marriage knowing that it’s a lifetime
commitment. Together you can accomplish so much more than alone.
It will take work and self sacrifice. The marriage highway
is filled with bumps and potholes but it’s a trip worth taking
and may be the best journey of your life.
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KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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