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Mistakes
That Married Men Make
Married men and married women both make mistakes
in their relationships but if you look at a certain statistic
it may be evident that men may make most of the mistakes in
a marriage. It’s estimated that 3 out of 4 divorces
are filed by women. This could mean that wives just get tired of husband
mistakes and decide to give up.
It’s a scientific fact that humans need relationships. We
need to share life with someone to feel fulfilled and complete.
Those who live alone express an emptiness and rarely develop
as well emotionally and socially as those who have a partner.
Married couples thrive better than singles and usually achieve
more in life in every way.
If we were meant to be together and form a relationship, why
do we make mistakes that jeopardize the situation? Some of
the things we do that are wrong, or viewed as wrong, are done
inadvertently.
Other mistakes are made over and over again even while we’re
aware of what we’re doing. Partners view these actions as an
attack on their person by destroying their relationship. It
comes across as indifference.
Men
are guiltier of this than women. Indifference doesn’t
mean a lack of love; it just means the scope of the problem
is perceived differently. Men rush to fix a problem and move
on to the next.
They ignore the need women have to be stroked and loved because
they’re experiencing trauma. Men must learn to fix the problem
but not until offering understanding and sympathy about the
female’s emotional stress.
Communicating and indifference could be termed as parallel
problems. Most men don’t mind talking and can usually offer
a step-by-step plan of solving whatever problem there may be.
Women ultimately want to solve the problem but also want to
talk to feel closer.
Men shouldn’t rush to fix but rush to listen and respect their
opinion and ideas.
Women want to analyze the problem to see why it exists and
why it occurred in the first place. Men tend to be less open
about how they feel and play the emotional cards close to their
chest.
Husbands should learn to listen with their hearts as well
as their minds and ears. Listen with enthusiasm and avoid the
tendency to withdraw. You’re not on the sports field here.
You’re sharing with your life’s partner.
Husbands tend to think romance is only for single guys while
courting their sweetheart. Now that the chase is over so is
the romance. As the romance dies so does the relationship.
Men can live without it, women cannot. Well, they can, but
prefer not to. This is one of the easiest mistakes to correct.
Simply be more affectionate and thoughtful. Give her little
gifts and surprises. Expensive gifts are not necessary. It
truly is the thought that counts in this case.
Don’t think of your wife as the guy friend you hunt or fish
with. She’s your friend but much more than that and expects
to be treated with respect and love. Wives are rarely someone
you can change. Love and accept her for what she is. Living
together means sharing together. Fewer mistakes will be made
if you bring back the good times.
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: 2009
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