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How
To Overcome Second Marriage Problems
As you ended your first marriage, finding
another true love and getting married was probably the last
thing on your mind. But, time heals most wounds and you feel
your broken heart beating again especially when a certain person
comes around. You’ve gone through the obligatory mourning period
and being alone and experiencing newfound freedom is not as
good as purported.
Are
you ready for another marriage? Ultimately, you must make
that decision but search your inner self first with a lot of
probing questions. Review your past performance and be brutally
honest. Whose fault was the downfall anyway? What really went
wrong? How could I have been a better spouse? Can I prevent
these things from happening again?
Don’t rush into another relationship too soon. Enjoy your
freedom and take the time to adjust. It’s not easy being along
again. The silence can be deafening. Don’t tie yourself down
again just because you’re lonely.
Second marriages, much like the first, can be very challenging.
Don’t think just because you now have on the job experience
that the second time around will be easier. That’s not to say
it won’t either but it will take effort.
Know that in a second marriage you’re not just marrying the
person but all that person has become and what comes with that
person, like baggage. Has your new partner completely severed
ties with the former spouse? If children are involved this
is doubtful. If you accept your new love you must accept their
children. Are you ready to be a stepparent?
Will your new partner come with a boatload of debt and unpaid
bills? Finances can be a problem and it’s well to determine
from the beginning who will pay for what. You might want to
let your bank accounts marry too and avoid separate spending
accounts. These sometimes lead to secretive behavior.
A prenuptial agreement may be in order to protect your savings
and your children. If you have children and you precede your
new spouse in death, your children could be left with nothing
if proper legal arrangements haven’t been made. At the very
least have a will.
Okay, you’ve made your decision and are ready to take the
plunge again; so what do you do now? As in all marriages, communicate.
Talk things over. Share your feelings. Don’t try to do things
in the new marriage just because it worked in the old one.
You are now creating new methods and new memories.
Start a new photo album and store the old one in a closet
and out of sight. Don’t give a reason for your new spouse to
be jealous. Start new traditions of things you do together
such as taking a walk after dinner or going out to your favorite
restaurant on a certain night.
Choose things together, decorate together, cook together.
Continue to be romantic. Know what each other expects and hold
on to a positive attitude and expect the best. A second marriage
could be the best years of your life.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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