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A
loving relationship should be a disciplined one. It may sound
odd to think of love and discipline in tandem.
One may think discipline is not possible with passion, or that
discipline makes for a dull relationship. However, if one truly
loves another, then discipline is required to do what’s best
for that individual. This is the ability to control behavior.
Some may call it willpower.
Self-discipline is a key for success in most every walk of
life. The student must be on time to school, the employee must
be on time for work. The house must be cleaned, the yard mowed.
If self-discipline is applied to these areas, why not the most
important area of ones life, the marital relationship?
It
can be difficult to maintain loving relationships in life
with wife or husband, children and parents. These must be our
first priority. Relationships can spread us too thin just
as work,
household
or child rearing obligations can.
In order to maintain our most crucial bond, the one with our
spouse, prioritize those relationships which are most
important. If many demand attention, creative energy will be sapped for
the one you love most. Prioritizing duties at work and at home
comes naturally to some, but doing the same to relationships
doesn’t come easy. It is, however, necessary for the growth
of the marriage.
Say no to those persons who would use your energy for their
purposes. Develop the wisdom to avoid those persons who always
seem to need your help after work or want to stop off for a
drink. Exceeding one’s energy does harm to those you’re trying
to help and certainly does harm to yourself.
When there’s fun
in a relationship, it is easy to enjoy and
nurture it. Direct thoughts to the great times in your marriage,
not the bad. Anticipate the evening’s “date.” This may give
you the discipline to say no to the co-worker who needs your
help. Anticipating fun with a spouse is energizing and a great
motivator. Make a list of the things that motivate positive
feelings toward your partner and train the brain to use them.
One must treat his or her own feelings with respect, listen
to the inner voice, but these thoughts and feelings must be
weighed and limited. Learn where your resistance is low and
try to avoid situations where you might give in to temptation.
Avoid useless battles with yourself by learning to say no to
yourself as well as saying no to others.
Study personal strengths and weaknesses and what energizes
and motivates you. Use these to produce the behaviors that
enhance the relationship. Take responsibility for your own
satisfaction. Find individual happiness and don’t depend on
your spouse for personal fulfillment. This is selfish. True
love is in the giving of love, not the receiving. Happiness
comes from within.
Self-discipline involves living up to your own potential.
Look honestly at yourself and make sure your personal actions
and values are those you can be proud of. Place no blame on
others.
Disappointment in yourself will lead to disappointment in
your relationships. You can never be immune to temptation.
Freedom to do as you will may have moments of excitement but
are fleeting over time and will eventually destroy a relationship,
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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