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Article Series: Save My Marriage
Uh Oh. I Need To Save My Marriage...NOW!
Save
My Marriage, Please!
Save my marriage is a cry of despair heard
so often in so many marriages everywhere. The cry is heard
from both husbands and wives who entered into the relationship
with great expectations of happiness and fulfillment. Too often
the ship of matrimony was launched in troubled waters and began
sinking soon after sailing.
But, you’re determined to save your marriage and screaming
for help from a rickety lifeboat of broken dreams and promises.
It’s hard to admit to a marriage gone bad and find yourself
in a state of denial. No one wants to admit failure. You cling
to any hope that some one or some thing may rescue a dying
love.
There are no magic words that can miraculously heal a failing
marriage but sometimes they can steer you in the right direction
to accept reality. It’s certainly more difficult, if not impossible,
if only one person in the relationship wants it to be saved.
Both parties need to make an effort to recapture the old feeling
and strive for healing.
Marriages
are easier to save when repair begins early although many
say they were not even aware anything was wrong. Couples
get too busy or wrapped up in their personal needs to watch
for tell-tell signs of a down hill slide.
Signs could include the spouse beginning to refer to “me”
rather than “we.” When one spouse becomes only interested in
what is good for them then the desire to continue in a relationship
is fading. Lack of affection is another sign the spouse is
losing interest as is staying away from home for any reason,
however lame.
Refusing to go to counseling is another sign of a marriage
gone or going south. Both must work together for a marriage
to succeed. Both must willingly accept counseling for it to
work and mend. If a partner won’t discuss problems with you,
it’s likely they won’t open up to a counselor either.
You overlook the small and petty things that may annoy you
when you’re in love and the marriage is on steady ground. If
criticism becomes a common conversation, bad news is on the
way. Values and commitments change but love and respect should
remain constant.
Marriages have been saved by change even on the part of only
one spouse. If you sincerely want to save your marriage, you
must be willing to concede, no matter who is right or wrong.
When one changes, it brings on a change in the other. You
need joy in your life and you won’t find it by being angry
and brooding just because you know you’re right. Forgive and
be forgiven. Change and be changed.
It’s possible a marriage is over and you must accept the fact
and move on for the sake of yourself and your family. But,
if you’re determined to make it work, seek help from counselors,
clergy, family and friends. Be flexible and creative. Concentrate
on what might work instead of proving you’re right. A marriage
saved is worth it.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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