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Stages: Where is Your Marriage?
Whether
we notice it or not, almost everything evolves in stages.
The earth has been changing from one stage
to another for billions of years while it formed and flourished.
The
four seasons mark another passage of interval time. When
people arrived on the scene they evolved from one age to
another,
for example the Stone Age, Iron Age and the Elizabethan Age. Our individual lives can be divided into stages as we grow
older, go to school, enter the workforce and marriage. These
particular stages can also evolve into stages within themselves
as you progress in each one. Relationships are no different
and most consist of five different stages. You’ll probably
recognize where you’ve been, where you are now and where you’re
headed.
The first stage is probably the best and is known by many
names. You’re head over heels in love with your spouse and
he or she can do nothing wrong. You’re perfect for each other.
It could be called the Rose
Colored Glasses Stage because
everything looks rosy. You both are so happy and think this
euphoria will last forever as you’re on your best behavior
and do sweet things for each other just because. Conflict is
rare.
It isn’t long before the rose colored glasses come off and
you realize your partner is human and makes mistakes. This
is known as the disenchantment stage. He or she is not as perfect
as you first thought.
The awful little habits you hadn’t noticed before become annoying.
Romance is still there but not as blissful. It’s during this
stage that communication can be so important because you’re
wondering where the fantasy went and what to do about it.
The panic
stage is usually next in line as disappointments
mount and marriage isn’t any fun anymore. There are too many
outside pressures, bills aren’t getting paid and you question
why you had children so young. You resent the fact that your
partner doesn’t see things the way you do. If the problems
can’t be resolved in a nice way many couples threaten to leave
and end the relationship.
If you can survive stage 3 you evolve into the strength stage
which can become more peaceful and meaningful. Deeper feelings
of love and trust are felt as you feel more confident in yourself.
The intense intimacy has faded into more of a friendship as
you each drift into your own hobbies and interests. Resist
the temptation to become bored and enjoy the contented relationship.
The last phase is probably the best as you accept your spouse
for what he or she is, with all their faults and irritating
habits. This could be known as the meaningful love
and commitment stage.
True love has developed and you’re both committed to making
a wonderful life together. You’re no longer struggling for
individuality but functioning as a team that can enjoy life
and anything it brings.
The
length of each of these states can vary depending on the
maturity of those involved.
Empower
yourself with the knowledge of what each stage will
bring and you will empower your marriage.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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