KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Save My Relationship
Uh Oh. I Need To Save My Relationship...NOW!

How To Save Your Relationship Before It's Too Late!

Maintaining a good relationship takes work and since it’s difficult to have a relationship alone that means it takes work together.  Relationship means having an association, a connection and a rapport.

Most relationships start off strong, filled with love and devotion.  Sometimes slowly, sometimes suddenly, the love and devotion are seemingly gone with the wind and you’re left bewildered. You rationalize that you did nothing wrong and fail to take any responsibility.  Or, you may blame yourself totally and view the situation as hopeless.  There are too many obstacles to overcome, too many hurts to heal, so you give up.

Wait!  It’s never too late to salvage a relationship if and only if both parties are willing to work together as a team.  If your love is real, you’ll work together and rebuild. False love crumbles at the first sign of trouble. True love is willing to climb mountains and swim vast oceans.  Which one describes your relationship?

If you decide your love is real and the relationship is worth saving, discover what you expect from each other, where the relationship has been and where it’s heading.  Has your relationship so far been meaningful with plans for the future or do you live from day to day and pretend you’re on a high school date? 

You must recognize the existing problems and get them out into the open.  Usually, both of you are to blame for not fulfilling each other’s needs. You might discover you never knew what those needs were because you fail to share.  Sharing is bonding.  In order to share you must communicate and learn about each other’s feelings and needs.  Both of you can be repeatedly hurting and the other not even know it.

Stop the blame game.  This is why communication and sharing are so important in a relationship.  As you disclose your feelings be rational, reasonable and calm.  No one wins an argument or a discussion by getting angry. 

You are two different people with two different views and perspectives.  Likely there is no right or wrong here, just differences.  Being different doesn’t mean you’re incompatible.  Your differences could be what brought you together in the first place.

Respect your differences and find common ground.  Show an interest in your partner’s interests.  Find some time to get involved in their work or their hobbies and experience it together.  You may find you like it and want to continue.

Talk about what’s right in addition to what’s wrong.  Don’t harbor resentment and guilt over emotional baggage of the past.  If your spouse has done something you think you can’t forgive, just know someone will and take right up where you let the good thing go. Forgive and forget.  Go slowly and agree to give it time.  Some time alone may be in order.  Your relationship can be saved unless you give up.

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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2011

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