KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Seduction
How To Meet That Girl You Really, Really Want
3
Fatal Mistakes - Online Dating For Men
When online dating first came in, many men
saw it as the answer to their dreams. Before, if you wanted
to join a dating agency, you had to spend hours writing letter
after letter to answer women's ads. Now you can just log on,
upload your profile and photo once, and write a couple lines
to every woman who is registered, asking her to check out your
profile, and you're done.
There are millions of women registered with hundreds or even
thousands of online dating agencies. There are always more
women than men, and the proportion of women increases with
age. So as a man, you would think all you have to do is get
your profile up there and you will have millions of women fighting
for you. Right? Well, maybe not ...
If you put your profile up and sit back and wait, you will
probably get some interest. Sure. You will receive emails from
women who like the look of you. And you will probably think
that you can find success with a lot of women without working
too hard.
But after a little while, things may not be going so well.
Progress is not as fast as you hoped. The ladies who approached
you do not seem to be following through. Most of them won't
even agree to meet you. Hey, they started it, right? Why are
they suddenly pulling away?
The fact is, that women do not see themselves as committing
to anything when they write you online. For a guy, when he
says 'I'm available', that's what he means. But for a woman,
being available doesn't mean they stop being picky.
At this point a lot of guys make some big mistakes.
1. Aggressiveness
Don't push for a meeting if she is saying no. No means no
- or anyways, not yet. Say OK and then just keep the dialogue
open. If she doesn't want to meet you, that means you have
not yet won her trust. You probably just need to keep talking.
Don't accuse her of being afraid to meet you. She will not
see that as a dare and suddenly agree. Women's minds do not
work like that. If you tell her she is afraid to meet you she
will probably think 'Yes I am' and change her phone number.
2. Looking for an ideal
If you have an ideal lady in your mind, you will probably
not find her. A lot of guys have fantasies about women who
look or act a certain way. Your ideal lady probably does not
exist, or if she does, she will not look exactly like you imagine.
If you hold onto ideals, then 99.9% of women will not fit.
Be open to the unexpected, and you will have a lot more success.
3. Lying and exaggerating
There is simply no point. If you lie about how much you earn,
how many times you have been married, or anything like that,
she will probably find out eventually and even if she does
not, the fact that you know you have lied will affect your
relationship.
If there is something you prefer not to tell, then avoid the
subject at first. Later, when you have built up trust and can
tell her in a confidential way, a woman will accept most that
you have to tell ... provided you did not lie about it.
Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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