KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Seduction
How To Meet That Girl You Really, Really Want
8
Ridiculous Seduction Myths
Why can some men seduce women so easily, and
others seem to have no success at all? The truth is that the
men who have no success believe one or other of the prevalent
myths about seduction which are completely untrue. Actually,
seduction is not at all difficult if you have proper knowledge
of the subject.
In this article we are going to look at some of the myths
and negative beliefs that you must get over if you want to
have success with women.
1. ‘I was rejected by X, so I am a failure with women.’
This is crazy, and yet a lot of men have this belief. Some
girl they liked was not attracted to them, so they just gave
up.
All men are rejected by some women. In fact, the guys who
have a lot of success with women also probably have a ton more
rejections than you, if they bothered counting them – but they
don’t, because they are too busy looking for the next success.
Whatever happened, get over it! Always remember that each and
every man has been turned down in his life at least once, unless
he never had the courage to try at all. Why should you allow
one measly rejection to have a negative impact on your whole
life?
2. “I won’t be able to seduce anyone.”
If you think that you don’t have it in you to seduce a woman
then you couldn’t be more wrong. Each and every one of us has
been born with innate seduction techniques. You may not have
discovered them as yet but this does not mean that you cannot
seduce a woman. How will you know that seduction is not for
you if you do not try it? Have more confidence in yourself.
Next time you are in a situation where you are meeting women,
remind yourself that there is at least one woman in the room
who is attracted to you. She will not approach you but she
is watching you and if you look at her, she will make eye contact
and then quickly look away before she looks at you again. All
you have to do is find that woman, form a connection, and you
are on your way.
3. “Women think that I am a jerk.”
If this is because you get drunk, play the fool, look like
a slob or act aggressive when you are nervous, then all of
those are things you can change. Women don’t think that a guy
is a jerk just because he is attracted to her. They like it.
But you need to build on that. Read my article on the ‘mystery’
method of seduction and concentrate on building your value.
Also, ask yourself whether you may be going for the wrong type
of woman, or approaching them in the wrong way. Do you go for
girls who look ‘easy’, when you are really more interested
in another type of girl? Try approaching the quieter ones for
a change. You may be surprised how differently they react.
4. ‘She could get any guy – she won’t choose me.’
Like most of the other myths, this shows lack of confidence
in yourself. Look around you at the couples you see. Aren’t
some of them surprising, even downright confusing (like what
the hell could she possibly see in that guy)? Don’t you see
lovely women with guys who seem nothing special at all? The
reason for that is that those guys are special to those women.
Be special, which you already are if you can believe in yourself,
and there is no reason why she would not go for you.
5. ‘If I sing her praises, I will be able to seduce her.’
Unfortunately, it is not that simple. The right compliment
at the right time can be the thing that makes her fall into
your arms, but women are not obsessed with compliments. Use
them sparingly. Believe it or not there are a few women who
feel insulted when you praise their body, dress or physical
appearance. They want you to be interested in them as people,
and they believe that men simply flatter them as an easy way
to get into their pants. So the next time you are with a woman
that you want to seduce, try not to sing too many praises for
you may push her away from you.
6. ‘It is important for me to be extremely creative and funny.’
This is not so important that you should try to fake it. Although
we talked about originality and humor, these are things that
come naturally when you are more confident. If you are trying
to be something you are not, a woman will be able to tell.
She is extremely good at reading body language. Just relax.
If you are not comfortable with cracking jokes then you don’t
have to do that. Instead you can do or talk about something
that you are good at.
7. ‘When I have finished reading these articles, I will be
an excellent seducer. If not, I need to keep looking for a
method that works.’
Again, it’s not that simple! Sure, reading about the methods
of seduction will help you, but you will need to actually practice
the methods, and keep reading these articles to remind yourself
of the ideas. Practice is the most important part of this.
You cannot be an expert in seduction in one or two days. It
may take a few weeks or months for you to master it, but you
will have successes along the way.
In six months from now, or a year, or ten years, do you want
to be confident of getting a woman whenever you want, or do
you want to be still sitting at home searching the internet
for the ‘magic’ method that will work for you instantly?
If you are turned off by the idea of putting these methods
into practice, you are probably afraid of making mistakes.
Try to look at things differently. There are no mistakes –
there are only learning opportunities. A few rejections now
are the best thing that can happen to you. You will learn more
from your rejections than from your successes, so you should
be grateful for those women who turn you down – but hide your
surprise when one accepts you!
8. ‘Women love money, and I don’t have any, so I have no chance
with them.’ This may hold true for a few women but not all women are after
you for your money. True gold-diggers are rare. Being a good
provider is not only about money. Women want someone who will
look out for them and take care of them, and you can do that
in other ways than financially.
Be confident, be interested in her and attentive to her needs,
and you will soon find women who appreciate that so much that
they don’t care whether you have a good job, or any job at
all.
These are some of the most common myths that prevent most
guys from having the success with women that they wish for.
If one of these is holding you back, take some time to find
a positive affirmation that will help you get past it. Remember
that a lot of these beliefs are deeply ingrained in us and
it takes more than just reading about them to overcome them
permanently.
If you don’t think that any of these is holding you back but
something else is, then try watching your reactions when you
are among women and see if you can identify what it is.
Then take whatever negative belief you may have, and imagine
what you will say if your best friend said that to you. How
will you help him see that it was not true? Make sure that
what you come up with is positive: i.e. not ‘I’m not a jerk’
(that’s a negative), but ‘I’m a confident guy that knows how
to please a woman.’  
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