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Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Is your love life getting boring and predictable?
Have you lost interest in sexual intimacy even though you still
care about your partner? It happens to so many couples who
have been together for a while. Sex becomes more of a habit
than a thrill and they may secretly start to wonder if the
excitement is gone forever. If this sounds like your situation,
there is plenty you can do to turn things around. Here are
a few ideas for heating up your sex life.
Exercise your libido
Both men and women can suffer from sexual boredom
or lack of interest, but this is a suggestion that women
in particular
should take to heart. From time to time you may need to get
back in touch with your sensual self. Read erotic stories or
watch sexy movies. Fantasize and masturbate. Sexual desire
is a funny thing - it needs to be fed or it withers away. There's
a lot of truth to the saying, "Use it or lose it." Or
to look at this principle in a more positive way: the more
you do it, the more you want to do it.
Take a vacation together
A change of scenery can do wonders for your sex life. Away
from the everyday scramble, you may feel more relaxed and less
inhibited. Dump the kids with the grandparents and leave the
Blackberry at home. If you can't fit a weekend or holiday getaway
into your schedule, you can simply stay home, turn off the
phone and TV, and devote some uninterrupted time to your partner.
Go shopping
Maybe the two of you need a little retail therapy. Take your
partner shopping for sex toys, either online or at your local
adult boutique. If toys don't appeal to you, you can browse
the DVD section or pick up a bottle of scented massage oil
to make the evening more special.
Stop being lazy about sex
Lazy is a little harsh, perhaps. But let's face facts. You've
probably been making love the same way for months or even years.
If that's the case, it's no wonder that boredom is setting
in. For an antidote, make a vow that your usual activities
are off-limits. Start completely from scratch in your lovemaking.
At the very least, try something different or unusual. If you
normally focus on certain parts of the body, turn your attention
to other parts. Pick an activity neither one of you has ever
done, and do it.
Switch
In some relationships, the way it works is that one person
initiates intimacy and directs most of the action. Try switching
roles so that the more passive partner is in charge. Here is
your chance to see what the view is like from another perspective.
If you're not used to being on top (or bottom), you're in for
a surprise.
Talk to your partner
Considering how obsessed North American culture is with sexuality,
it's shocking how little time people spend actually discussing
sex with their partner. If the two of you rarely or never talk
about your love life, it's time to change that. Tell your partner
about your erotic wishes and fantasies. Speak in positive terms,
never critically. Ask about her desires (or his). Don't assume
you know what your partner likes. Listen carefully. Figure
out how the two of you can have the sex life of your dreams,
together.
Sexual boredom may be a common problem in a long-term relationship,
but it's certainly not inevitable. Don't think that there is
something wrong with you - or your partner - if intimacy has
become a little routine. And don't despair that the passion
has gone forever. Instead, use some of these suggestions or
come up with your own creative ideas to revive the erotic chemistry
you and your lover once shared.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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