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I Want A Better Sex Life. Teach Me How.
How
To Get What You Want In Bed
Are you getting what you want?
Sure, you and your partner make love regularly but are you
really satisfied
with what you do together? If your answer is "Yes, I am
perfectly content with my sex life," then that's great.
But if your answer is closer to "Umm... well..." then
perhaps it's time for a change. Here are some tips for getting
what you want in your sex life.
Know what you want
This sounds painfully obvious, but it's not as simple as you
may think. There are numerous reasons why it can be hard to
answer the question, What do I want? Some people shut down
their desires because they feel funny about them. Others have
a very limited knowledge of the countless ways that humans
can express themselves sexually. Many individuals don't understand
their bodies very well.
Understanding what you want requires being open to your most
personal thoughts and feelings. There is no need to be judgmental
about desire. What do you fantasize about, either during lovemaking
or when you're alone? Fantasies are often crazy and unrealistic,
but there may be elements that could easily be acted out in
the bedroom. If you believe that you are lacking in sexual
knowledge, then give yourself permission to learn more through
reading books, watching movies, or surfing the web.
Ask for what you want
Now that you have a good idea of what you want, share it with
your partner. Try to frame your request in a positive way.
Don't complain about how dissatisfied you are with the status
quo. Instead, talk about how much you love your private time
together and how it exciting it would be if he or she did a
certain thing. If he or she seems unwilling to consider your
request, then you need to find out why. Once you understand
your partner's hesitation, you may be able to come up with
a compromise that would be rewarding for both of you.
Give your partner what he or she wants
If you're getting what you want, it's only fair that your
partner gets what he or she wants, right? A sexual relationship
should be mutually satisfying or it will hit the rocks pretty
quickly. Give your partner an opportunity to talk about his
or her own desires and do your best to fulfill them. Ladies,
don't withhold sex as a punishment. If something is bugging
you, fix the real problem instead of letting your resentment
spill over into the bedroom. And gentlemen, you need to understand
that pleasing and fully satisfying your partner is the most
effective way of getting more sex.
It's that simple. You really can get what you want, sexually
speaking - or at least a big portion of it. Use these tips
as a guide to curing dissatisfaction in the bedroom. When you
understand your own desires, are able to verbalize them, and
are willing to cater to your partner's desires, the end result
can only be a more spectacular love life. > For
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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