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The
Top 3 Stumbling Blocks To a Great Sex Life
In the imaginary world of movies,
television, magazines, and books, everyone seems to be enjoying
rapturous
sex in great quantity. In the real world, though, things are
entirely different. Many adults would describe their sex life
as just "so-so." It's there, it's regular, and once
in a while there's an orgasm involved. Of course, there are
many reasons why your sex life may not be all that you want
it to be. Here are three factors that can get in the way of
having a great sex life.
Poor body image
This is a problem that affects more women than men, but both
genders can suffer from a negative body image. It's hard to
feel sexy or desirable when you don't like how your body looks.
You may feel self-conscious or embarrassed by rolls of fat,
hair in the wrong places, or who knows what else! A poor body
image may cause you to insist on lights off during sex. If
your partner happens to enjoy visual stimulation, this can
be a sad deprivation.
Instead of focusing on the things you dislike about your body,
think about the positive and attractive features. Your partner
isn't perfect, why should you be? Simply being a confident
and enthusiastic partner is sexy, even if you don't qualify
as a perfect ten.
Unrealistic expectations
We often have peculiar and unrealistic expectations about
how sex should be. For example, some people believe that since
sex is a natural thing, great sex should come naturally. But
that's simply not the case. Making love is a learned skill.
If you haven't learned how to do it, or you've learned all
the wrong things, you're going to run into difficulties.
Along the same lines, some people expect their partner to
instinctively know how to please them. Unfortunately, most
of us haven't mastered the art of mind-reading yet. The bottom
line is that if you want a great sex life you must be open
to learning new things. You must also be willing to communicate
honestly with your partner.
Believing that it isn't ladylike or feminine to want sex
This is a belief that both women and men can harbor, sometimes
without even realizing it. But the idea really couldn't be
farther from the truth. Men and women both crave erotic touch
and sexual satisfaction. They may get turned on in different
ways or at a different pace, but the intensity of desire is
the same whether you're a man or a woman.
What happens sometimes is that a woman learns to suppress
her erotic feelings. For one reason or another, she is unable
to let go and enjoy the moment. This can cause her boyfriend
or husband to assume that nice women are not really interested
in sex. She may even believe it herself. But the fact is that
sexual desire is as natural and normal for women as it is for
men. To think otherwise deprives both men and women of something
very important.
Many of the factors that prevent people from enjoying a great
sex life are nothing more than mental blocks. Once you've identified
the blocks that are getting in your way, you can easily knock
them down. When you change the way you look at things, you
may be thrilled at how rewarding your sex life can become. > For
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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