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Great Reasons You Should Talk To Your Partner About Sex
Most of us find it easy to chat about the
latest celebrity scandal or complain about what happened last
night on American Idol. But when it comes to the things that
really matter, we often get tongue-tied and shy. For example,
many couples rarely or never discuss their sex life with each
other. That's a shame, because open communication about this
topic offers a lot of advantages. Here are three reasons why
talking about sex is important in a relationship.
It's a good way to get what you want
First of all, clear communication is the most direct route
to getting what you want in the bedroom. It's also the best
way to learn exactly what your partner would like from you.
Some people make the mistake of assuming they already know
what their partner likes and needs. No matter how well you
believe you know someone, he or she still has an inner life
that is hidden from you until it's shared in words.
If you think about it, you'll realize that what individuals
desire can - and will - change over time. It's true in all
parts of life, and it's true with respect to sexual expression.
If you and your lover have a certain lovemaking routine, how
will either of you know that you want something a little different
unless you speak up?
It helps to clarify misunderstandings
Conversation is also the best way to clear up any misunderstandings
that can crop up whenever two people interact. For example,
you may be trying a new technique on your partner and suddenly
she gets very quiet. You're a bit confused about what that
means. Does she like what you're doing? Does she hate what
you're doing? You might forget about it in the passion of the
moment, but later you remember and you're still wondering.
Now, if you are comfortable talking about sex, you can ask
your partner what was going on at that moment.
If you're willing and able to discuss sex with
your partner, you can also give effective feedback. For example,
you can
say to your partner "remember when you were touching me
in that certain way - wow, I loved it - you should do that
again!" This type of praise and feedback is immensely
gratifying for anyone to hear. And mentioning the precise thing
you enjoyed is a sure-fire way of making it happen again.
It's fun
Yes, conversation about sex can really be a lot of fun. Once
you get past your initial nervousness, you and your partner
can have some very interesting and thought-provoking discussions.
Merely talking about sex can be a huge turn-on. Why not use
this fact to your advantage? Entice your partner by putting
into words the new sensual activity you'd like to try. Or describe
in vivid detail the pleasurable things you are going to do
to him or her when you are finally alone together.
Good communication is essential if a couple wants to have
a happy and satisfying love life. Although it may be scary
to break the ice, you'll quickly discover the benefits of discussing
sex openly and directly with your partner. By sharing your
erotic thoughts, ideas, and wishes, the two of you will develop
a greater level of intimacy that will have rewards even outside
the bedroom. > For
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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