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8 Things That Cause Your Sex Drive To Decrease

What causes our sex drive to decrease? This article will review what can bring your sex drive to a halt, along with what methods you can use to rev up your passion.

1. Is oral sex for you? Orgasms when received via oral sex will flood your senses beyond your wildest dreams. The quickest way to make sure you never again experience this pleasure is to give your lover a look of disgust when they mention oral sex to you. If it is something you are not ready for, be honest and explain why you are not ready before you begin. Offer other creative sexual outlets instead. Never engage in sexual behavior that makes either partner uncomfortable.

2. Worried about smell: To take care of this concern, grab your man directly after the shower or for that matter in the shower. Before you perform oral sex, you should make it clear how far you are willing to go when it comes to oral sex. Also, many women worry about their own smell during oral sex. Freshen up before and you will not have a need for worry. Most men will not notice anyway.

3. Fear of Experimenting: Sex play can be fun and forces you to step out of our preconceived ideas of what sex should be. There are many ways to experiment. You can try different positions, go to a sex shop together and find something that you both are interested in, play with food during foreplay, or even use costumes. The bottom line is that sex should be fun and respectful of all participants.

4. Do you know your own body? Knowing your body is important to your sexual pleasure. If he is doing something to you and you are not responding and you do not know why, it can hamper your sex life. Masturbating is a perfect way to find out what works for you.

5. You can be the aggressor: Your partner will enjoy you coming up to him and initiating sex. Be creative and unexpected and he will delight in your advances. It is quite a turn on for you to be the one walking up to him and unzipping his pants.

6. Are you easily embarrassed? Bodily noises escaping can be a turn off for both partners. Sex is very intimate and there is no way you can get that close with someone and not have your body under your control completely. Your partner should already be aware of the way the body responds during sex and most likely will not be bothered by it and neither should you. If you think for one second you can engage in sex without something embarrassing happening, you need to stop right now. It does not work that way. Have a good laugh and continue pleasuring each other.

If you or your partner is not interested in sex there may be several reasons for this. It is important to find out why so that the partner who does not receive sex is not left wondering what they have done that has turned you off to them. The cure for such a lack of desire depends on the cause:

7. Depression: A woman experiencing depression has sex completely off the radar. When she gets help for her depression, there is a good chance that her sex drive will return. If the woman has had a hysterectomy this could affect her sex drive also because she equates the uterus with being a woman and without she feels as if she is not complete. She also feels as if she is not as beautiful as those who can still give birth. If the hysterectomy included the removal of her ovaries, she will also experience early menopause. Menopause can cause all sorts of complications, especially those related to sex drive. It is very important that she speaks to her doctor about hormone therapy and above all realizes that her uterus is not what defines her being a woman.

8. Childbirth: A new mom sometimes get so emotionally tied up with her baby, not to mention so tired from lack of sleep, that she loses interest in sex. The dad, who may have stopped having sex with her during the last month or two of pregnancy, and who gave her the time she needed to recover from the effects of giving birth, may begin to get testy after several months have gone by.

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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2006

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