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8
Things That Cause Your Sex Drive To Decrease
What
causes our sex drive to decrease? This
article will review what can bring your sex drive to a halt,
along with what methods you can use to rev up your passion.
1.
Is oral sex for you? Orgasms when received via oral sex
will flood your senses beyond your wildest dreams. The quickest
way to make sure you never again experience this pleasure is
to give your lover a look of disgust when they mention oral
sex to you. If it is something you are not ready for, be honest
and explain why you are not ready before you begin. Offer other
creative sexual outlets instead. Never engage in sexual behavior
that makes either partner uncomfortable.
2.
Worried about smell: To take care of this concern, grab
your man directly after the shower or for that matter in the
shower. Before you perform oral sex, you should make it clear
how far you are willing to go when it comes to oral sex. Also,
many women worry about their own smell during oral sex. Freshen
up before and you will not have a need for worry. Most men
will not notice anyway.
3.
Fear of Experimenting: Sex play can be fun and forces you
to step out of our preconceived ideas of what sex should be.
There are many ways to experiment. You can try different positions,
go to a sex shop together and find something that you both
are interested in, play with food during foreplay, or even
use costumes. The bottom line is that sex should be fun and
respectful of all participants.
4.
Do you know your own body? Knowing your body is important
to your sexual pleasure. If he is doing something to you and
you are not responding and you do not know why, it can hamper
your sex life. Masturbating is a perfect way to find out what
works for you.
5.
You can be the aggressor: Your partner will enjoy you coming
up to him and initiating sex. Be creative and unexpected and
he will delight in your advances. It is quite a turn on for
you to be the one walking up to him and unzipping his pants.
6.
Are you easily embarrassed? Bodily noises escaping can
be a turn off for both partners. Sex is very intimate and there
is no way you can get that close with someone and not have
your body under your control completely. Your partner should
already be aware of the way the body responds during sex and
most likely will not be bothered by it and neither should you.
If you think for one second you can engage in sex without something
embarrassing happening, you need to stop right now. It does
not work that way. Have a good laugh and continue pleasuring
each other.
If you or your partner is not interested in sex there may
be several reasons for this. It is important to find out why
so that the partner who does not receive sex is not left wondering
what they have done that has turned you off to them. The cure
for such a lack of desire depends on the cause:
7.
Depression: A woman experiencing depression has sex completely
off the radar. When she gets help for her depression, there
is a good chance that her sex drive will return. If the woman
has had a hysterectomy this could affect her sex drive also
because she equates the uterus with being a woman and without
she feels as if she is not complete. She also feels as if she
is not as beautiful as those who can still give birth. If the
hysterectomy included the removal of her ovaries, she will
also experience early menopause. Menopause can cause all sorts
of complications, especially those related to sex drive. It
is very important that she speaks to her doctor about hormone
therapy and above all realizes that her uterus is not what
defines her being a woman.
8.
Childbirth: A new mom sometimes get so emotionally tied
up with her baby, not to mention so tired from lack of sleep,
that she loses interest in sex. The dad, who may have stopped
having sex with her during the last month or two of pregnancy,
and who gave her the time she needed to recover from the effects
of giving birth, may begin to get testy after several months
have gone by. # # # # #
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: 2006
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