KissMeGoodnight
eLearning Series:
Your Sexual Health
How
To Spark Your Sexual Experiences
The media often depicts sexual behaviors as
very intense and serious. In addition, many people focus more
on performance than on pleasure when it comes to sex. People
can forget, therefore, how fun sex is. It is important,
however, for couples to remember the fun aspect of sex. It is perfectly
acceptable to explore fantasies, relationship-enhancing toys,
or anything else, if everyone in the relationship is comfortable
doing so. At the very least, couples should be able to express
openly the joy that comes from having a pleasurable sexual
experience. Every person in a relationship needs to determine
for them what is and is not “fun” when it comes to sex.
Would looking for ways to have better sex after
years of good sex with your partner be sinfully greedy? From
the averted
gazes, blushes, and giggles that so many people produce when
sex toys are mentioned, you would think increasing sexual joy
past some legal limit truly breaks a law. No way by nature,
human beings are game players and tool users. We enjoy inventing
recreational activities that enhance our abilities to do required
tasks: accurate javelin throwing and bringing down dinner-on-the-hoof
have something important in common. So, too, game-like sexual
fantasies, whether all in the mind or role-played with costumes
and props, "tools" if you will, are natural extensions
of a healthy desire to heighten pleasure and enrich sexual
relationships.
1)
Vibrators have a place among the tools that people use
to improve their sexual skills, increase their own and their
partners' pleasure, and add joy to their sex lives. Most female
orgasms depend on clitoral stimulation, and vibrators provide
the most intense clitoral stimulation possible. In lovemaking
with a partner, vibrators work best as a complement to other
sexual stimuli. Using a vibrator does not reduce the sensual
pleasure of direct body contact, of skin on skin, of mouths
and tongues, of hands or genitals.
2)
Aim for the G-Spot - G-spot vibrators are now available
and designed to stimulate what has been described as the G-spot
located on the upper wall of many women's vaginas. The surface
of the G-spot tends to feel rough to the touch and, like erectile
tissue in the penis; it may become firm and swell when stimulated.
Once the G-spot is found any stimulation will help, a finger
or penis works great.
3)
Dildos have been around since the dawn of
humanity and probably will be for a while longer. Made of
pliant silicone
these days, they can be used for vaginal or anal penetration
and come in every configuration you might think of and many
you probably would not. For safety, dildos intended for anal
use should have a flared base. Prosthetic penile aides are
hollow dildos, usually made of latex, and can be worn by either
males or females. They are held on with adjustable elastic
straps. A "universal harness" designed for any dildo
or penile aide with a flared base, are also made. Dildos can
be fun with oral sex. As the man pleasures the woman, he can
stimulate her clitoris with his tongue and use the dildo in
her vagina to reach the G-spot. For women during oral sex on
a man a dildo can be used anally, if so desired.
4)
Lubricants add a sensual slickness to sexual stimulation.
Many are odorless, tasteless, and non-staining, and some are
edible. Others warm up when you blow on them, a tasteful way
to create a hot environment. However, use only water-based
lubes; oil-based lubricants destroy the latex used in condoms,
dams, and diaphragms. Many lubricants are designed for multiple
tasks, massage, eatable, vaginal lubrication, and more.
5)
Sex toys include products such as positioning
pillows, "smittens" (textured
mittens), tranquility balls, safe sex kits, guides, books,
erotic videos, feathers, games, leather accessories and various
attachments for the nipples and genitals. There are many toys
available for bondage aficionados. Most catalogs offer blindfolds,
some lined in fake fur, buckled or hook-and-loop restraints,
slappers and handcuffs. These are great for creating some fantasy
play between long time partners.
6)
Dress-up clothes are a great way to add spice to one’s
sex life. Many lingerie stores sell sexy outfits for a fun
evening. There is also fantasy out fits, such as a schoolgirls
uniform, nurse, cowboy, policeman, and doctors. These products
are fun and sassy and definitely add a thrill to the romance. # # # # #
by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2006
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