KissMeGoodnight
eLearning Series:
Your Sexual Health
Parents:
Facts
About Sex To Share with Your Teen
Many
parents find is difficult to talk to their children about
sex. They are not sure when they should
have this conversation or maybe they give the child too much
information. The reality is that talking to your children about
sex starts very early. When they first ask simple questions,
you respond with simple answers. You talk to them according
to the information they are seeking. If they see you are embarrassed
on the subject, they will also be embarrassed. The best thing
to do is be relaxed and show them you are confident about your.
Convey the message that they should confident about their own
body. Here are some helpful ideas to start the conversation.
Share
your values with your children but remember as they
grow up they will be making their own choices. Their values
may not always reflect yours. Giving your child all the facts
pertaining to sex is important. Make them aware that unprotected
sex has consequences. Talk to them about the different forms
of birth control and that both the male and female are responsible
for birth control – not just the female.
When you talk to your children about sex, keep
it light and funny and do not take on a serious attitude that will scare
them. Let your child know that they can come to you with any
questions they may have and assure them that you will not over-react.
Share with them what your desires are for them and reassure
them that you will support them through the all the changes
they will go through.
Let
your children know the difference between love and sex. Share with them the power of sexual attraction and that it
takes will power to make the right decision. Remind them that
love takes time to cultivate and respects each other. Let them
know that love does not always mean sex. Often teenagers think
being aroused is the same as being in love and therefore they
think they can have sex because they love each other. Children
learn facts about sex in school. They learn morals through
religious training. The rest of life’s lessons come from the
family.
Children have always learned from their parent’s examples
from their earliest days. During this time of change, they
will be watching parents even closer. When parents tell them
they can ask us anything, do they really mean it? Will you
as a parent listen calmly to their fears or questions? They
are becoming teenagers, teenagers test the limits, and testing
us is all part of the limits. Remember to not try to control
them rather be patient with them while you describe to them
there are consequences to all behavior and if they make choices
that are poor in judgment, they will have to own that.
It is important during this time of growth in their lives
that they have a good sense of self. Self-esteem and confidence
is very important during this time. If they do, they will be
more likely to make healthy choices and not give in to pressure
to engage in unsafe behavior of any kind. Remember to praise
them for making healthy choices and talking to them calmly
when the choices that they made were not the best for them
and explain to them why.
Parents
want their children to love and appreciate their bodies. This displays very healthy self-images. Children with a good
sense of self are more likely to stand up for their rights
and the rights of others they see being taunted or pressured
into making decisions that give away their power.
All kids begin learning to make good choices very early in
life. At the same time, they also learn the consequences of
unhealthy choices. This should not stop simply because they
are now becoming teenagers. In fact, in a very loving way you
should make clear the consequences of unsafe behavior. Demanding
your teenagers do anything is a guarantee that they will. At
some point, parents have to trust them to make their own decisions
and face their own consequences. This is part of becoming an
adult. Parents know all too well that the road is filled with
many bumps on the way to becoming an adult. # # # # #
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