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Your Sexual Health
Sexual
Health During Menopause:
Men and Women
As men and women, age the body experiences
several changes. Some of these changes have an adverse affect
on the sexual experiences. A slower response time is an area
that disturbs older adults and does not mean that you should
give up on sexual pleasure. This is a great time in your life
and you can become creative and try new positions and other
forms of sexual pleasure to stimulate arousal. Here is a look
at some of those ways to help maintain sexual health during
menopause.
For
Women
Foreplay: Arousal can take longer for the older adult, so
this is a great time to enjoy foreplay. Take as long as you
want and enjoy pleasuring each other or yourself. There is
no hurry, only pleasure waiting to be enjoyed.
Communicate: Talk about what excites you and listen to what
turns on your partner. This is both enlightening and at times
can be arousing.
Try
a new place: Do not have your sexual encounter only in
the bedroom. Lighten it up by trying different places. Set
time aside and go to a local motel for the night. A change,
even a small one can flood the senses with pleasure. While
you are experimenting with new locations explore self-stimulation
with or without your partner or together. You can incorporate
this form of pleasure into foreplay and enjoy a wonderful experience.
Often as the woman ages, her vagina becomes drier and the
labia will lose a bit of its firmness. During this time, the
clitoris can become extremely sensitive.
Lubrication: Find a lubrication that you prefer and make it
part of your sexual experience. Using lubrication is a great
way to moisten the vagina, which will make intercourse very
pleasurable. There are water-based lubricants and oil-based
lubricants that you can purchase with a prescription. An added
bonus to using lubricants is that they can become part of foreplay.
Vaginal
estrogens: These are effective, for the short term,
to ease the discomfort of vaginal dryness. It is important
to discuss this option with your doctor because there are side
effects of the estrogen.
For
Men
Older men will often experience a delay in achieving an erection.
They require more manual stimulation than before. They also
have a longer period between the time that they reach an erection
and ejaculation. It might be helpful to stimulate each other
and relax until you both have been fully satisfied. Another
change for older men is that once orgasm has been achieved,
the penis quickly loses it firmness. If the man is taking any
medications, he should speak to his doctor about possible side
effects of losing his sex drive or other functions of his libido.
It is important for the woman to be patient with her partner
just as he is with her. If you find you are unable to achieve
an erection after spending time trying to different methods
you may want to talk to your doctor about possibly having an
erectile dysfunction.
Heart
disease: this can be very disconcerting for the man
because he does not want to over-exert himself with the sexual
act. If you have had a heart attack or have had heart surgery,
you might wonder when you can fully enjoy pleasuring your partner
and being pleasured in return. The rule is if you can walk
up two flights of stairs without difficulty, your heart is
ready for the exercise in sexual gratification.
Positions
to try: be creative with different positions and
keep trying until you and your partner find a position that
benefits both of you. The “spoon position” is where you both
lie on your sides and the woman has her back to the man – just
like a pair of spoons – this can be very intimate and enjoyable.
Another option is the person whose back may not be as strong
can by lying down and the stronger partner kneeling above them.
You could also take turns with this position giving each a
rest from being on top.
Entering menopause and aging does not mean that sex has come
to an end you are no longer able to enjoy yourselves. Quite
the opposite, you now have more time to communicate, experiment
with different positions, and completely enjoy your sexual
encounters. # # # # #
by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2006
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