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Your Sexual Health
Women:
Insecurity Over Your Vagina
Women
have voiced a growing concern that their male lover reports
that they do not 'feel enough' during intercourse
or that they themselves do not 'feel tight enough'. Women are
starting to worry that this is a consequence of the size of
their vaginas. Feeling loose for a woman can mean a sexual
death sentence. Unlike the penis, the vagina is not under the
scrutiny of its owner several times a day at the urinal. Without
this regular view, the average woman has little idea of what
the proportions of her vagina actually are. There are many
possible reasons to account for the lack of sensation men are
experiencing, such as an increase in the use of condoms, numbing
the natural sensation, greater use of anti-depressants that
delay ejaculation, and more sexually aggressive women. However,
women are taking the blame on themselves. They think that maybe
they are not tight any more. Childbirth and sex before marriage
has lead women who have been previously sexually active, feeling
like used goods to some extent.
The truth is that most women are not loose,
especially if they have never had children. Vaginas come
in many shapes and
sizes, ranging between 3 - 5 inches in length. The vagina is
not a "hole" but, instead, a "potential space.”
It is the tone of the PC (pubococcygeal) muscles surrounding
it that account for the size. Control allows women to contract
at the right time, and in the right way, permitting her to
determine what she and her partner feel during intercourse.
This type of control can be achieved easily through the "Kegel" exercises,
an enjoyable activity of routinely contracting the pelvic floor
muscles (which one uses to stop the flow of urine). This also
increases sexual pleasure in both women and men. These contractions
tighten the vagina and increase the likelihood or female orgasm.
These muscles have the ability to squeeze the man’s penis,
which feels incredible for him.
A
slight change in size has indeed been associated with significant
weight loss or gain, with dramatic hormonal changes, or with
surgery. However, more often it is the passing of a baby through
the birth canal that expands the walls of the vagina. This
causes some women (and their lovers) to experience a loose
feeling during intercourse. While most vaginas bounce right
back to their original state, within a few months, some need
many hours of Kegels to get their tone back. In some cases,
even with months of Kegel exercises under their belt, some
women complain that nothing seems to work to get them back
to normal. Some vaginas need more toning than others do, especially
if the woman has given birth in rapid succession.
Before rushing off to get your vagina cut and stitched, consider
your options. The most common reason Kegels may not be working
is that they are simply not being done correctly.
1.
Monitor your progress - A quick and easy way to tell whether
your Kegels are working is with a handy tool, called the Parinometer.
Slide it into the vagina and squeeze. It will tell you just
how strong your muscles are. More importantly, it will tell
you how you are progressing, as the weeks go by.
2.
Check to see if you are doing the right type of Kegel for
you. If your goal is to feel more (and have your partner feel
more) during intercourse, make sure you practice with something
inside the vagina. Practicing without anything inside may give
you performance anxiety when you finally try to use them in
the presence of a penis. Ideal objects for practicing include
the vaginal barbells, which is considered top quality weights
for the vagina and the Kegelcisor that gives the PC muscles
a great little workout. The newest addition to PC workout tool
is the Berman-Juno Weighted Kegel Exerciser, which adds resistance
with springs, in a less expensive way. Bullet-Vibe, are two
little weighted balls that you must keep inside while you go
about your daily activities. It is harder than you think. Alternatively,
simply incorporate your Kegels into your sex-play with the
actual penis.
Finally, before leaping to conclusions about the size of your
vagina, keep in mind that there are different sizes and shapes
of penises too. Like a lock and key, some combinations do work
better than others do. One person's ideal vagina could be too
loose for another. There is a widely circulated myth that a
lot of sex will increase the size of your vagina. The walls
of the vagina are elastic and can stretch to accommodate a
baby's head without any damage. Even the largest penis would
not come close to reaching these proportions. # # # # #
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: 2006
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