Choosing
Who Will Perform the Wedding Ceremony
The choice on whether to go with a minister
or a justice of the peace is a question that has a lot to do
with your situation. Your religion may carry a large
load of confusion as what route to go, as well. Whether you are Catholic,
Roman Catholic or Baptist, there are many factors to think
about.
What
if you’re soon-to-be spouse is a different religion than
you are? How is that dealt with? This is clearly a case of
wanting it and making it happen. There is compromise all the
way through a relationship and the first road to reaching compromise
is to reach a level of understanding. Finding an understanding
in this situation will undoubtedly cause ruffles in family
members feathers. If the bride is Catholic and the groom is
Protestant, which direction does the ceremony go? Who will
officiate the ceremony can be tricky indeed. Here are some
things to consider when you reach this dilemma.
First of all, it would be a good idea to sit
down with each other and listen to views. Taking this time might, in fact,
serve well if you can both come to an agreement relatively
quickly. It would be best to avoid fights, as this will only
heighten the whole aggravating situation. Once an agreement
can be reached, then and only then, shall family members be
informed of the decision. At that point, you will have each
other’s backs in the event of family conflict. Matters can
be simplified by many factors, some of which include indoor
or outdoors ceremonies, churches, parks, and of course, how
strong your religion is on the whole issue. Also, it might
be noted that perhaps some of this strong religion may be in
a way forced on one or both of the bride and groom. If this
is the case, it may not even matter whether you choose a minister
or justice of the peace at all.
Say, for instance religion is not an issue, and you wish to
marry in the park near your home. It is not likely that a minister
from your church will do this ceremony, as they would prefer
it done at their home church. You could go with the justice
of the peace and still have a traditional style wedding with
all the proper vows included. The ceremony is just done in
a park. Perhaps you want it done outside, where could you turn
if the justice of the peace requires you to have the ceremony
in the courthouse? That may be what you are looking for, so
in this situation, it might not be a bad idea to check into
a public notary. They are non-denominational and will do a
ceremony of your choice in the location you choose for a very
small fee.
This is not saying by any means that your local minister will
not do a service in the location of your choosing. It just
may be easier if you go with an official that is impartial
and has no set faith to follow when uniting you in matrimony.
This way there is no leaning to the left or the right, just
straight down the middle and of unbiased opinion. Religion
sometimes can really wreak havoc on a young couple trying to
wed. Far too many families that are steeped in religion tend
to intervene in marital situations and can cause a very large
stir. Keeping in mind the bride and groom have enough going
on at the moment, the last thing they need is to have family
squabble over religion and the choices made in the matrimony
department. What this all boils down to is a matter of personal
decision no one other than the bride and groom should choose.
Choosing between a minister and a justice of the peace is a
highly personal decision. Either way, you will need to sit
down with the person who will officiate the ceremony and let
him or her know of your needs and wants. A minister might require
pre-marital classes or counseling and may prefer to perform
the ceremony in a certain way. A justice of the peace will
probably be more flexible when officiating your wedding ceremony.
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