Wedding
Preparations: Your Second Marriage
- by KissMeGoodnight.com
Second marriages require a host of issues
that differ from the preparations for a first marriage. In
addition to all the logistics relating to party plan that plague
a first wedding, second time brides and grooms deal
with additional issues. Some of these issues include legal issues, determining
who pays for the wedding, deciding what type of attire the
bride and groom will wear and possibly even dealing with having
your own children involved in the process if either of you
already have children from a previous marriage.
The
most important wedding consideration in a second marriage
is the legal documentation. It is imperative that you obtain
certifiable proof that you are no longer legally married to
another person before you enter into a second marriage. If
you previous spouse is deceased a death certificate would serve
as proof. If your previous spouse is still alive, you will
need to acquire a divorce decree as proof that you are no longer
married.
The
subject of the cost of the wedding and who bears the financial
burden is an important consideration if you are dealing with
a second marriage. The bride’s parents typically pay for a
first marriage but if this is the second marriage for the bride,
the parents may not be willing or able to pay for a second
wedding. In this situation the couple themselves will usually
shoulder the financial burdens of the wedding. This is not
a cause for concern because when the wedding is for a second
marriage, the event is usually not as extravagant as a wedding
for a first marriage. If the couple is paying for the wedding
themselves, they should focus on setting a budget beforehand
and ensuring that they do not exceed their budget constraints.
However, if this is a second marriage for the groom but the
first marriage for the bride, the bride’s parents may be excited
to help in paying for the wedding. Even though the bride’s
parents are paying for the wedding, the couple may still opt
for a simple wedding that does not put a financial strain on
the parents.
The
subject of wedding attire is another important consideration
when planning a wedding for a second marriage. It’s important
to remember that although some people may disapprove of a bride
wearing white when it is her second marriage it really doesn’t
matter what others think. The most important thing is that
the couple themselves feel comfortable with their choices.
If the bride wants to wear white even though it is her second
wedding, she should go ahead and do so. Whether the couple
chooses to walk down the aisle in traditional wedding attire
or jeans and sneakers is completely up to them. They should
not let the potential of disapproval by others affect their
attire choices.
If
either the bride or groom has children from a previous
relationship, the couple will have to deal with issues
relating
to the children. The couple will want to discuss their wedding
plans with the children early in their engagement to give the
children plenty of time to adjust to the idea that their parent
will be remarrying. It’s important that you inform your ex-spouse
of your wedding plans at the same time as your children so
that you are not putting your child in the difficult situation
of keep a secret from their other parent. Once your child has
been informed of the wedding plans, discuss the planning with
them and ask them how much they would like to be involved.
If they are not comfortable with the plans they may not want
to be too involved initially but this may change once the planning
starts to get more exciting. Children can be involved in the
wedding in a number of ways. Depending on their age they can
serve as flower girls and ring bearers or bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Children can also play a role in the planning process by helping
with decorations, favors and decisions that need to be made.
The more involved they are, the less likely they are to feel
left out and resentful about the wedding.
Planning a wedding that is a second marriage for either or
both members of the couple involves a few extra precautions
and issues. Having your legal documentation proving that you
are no longer married is the most important issue in a second
marriage. Beyond that other issues relate to finances, attire
and children.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2005
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