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I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
On
a Date: What to Say if the Conversation Stalls
The date started out great. You talked about
your work and his work. Then you shared some stories about
mutual friends. He knows the names of your pets and you know
about his car.
Then comes the dreaded stall - that awkward moment when the
conversation seems to have nowhere else to go. The salad is
only going to last so long and then both of you have to say
something. But what?
Here are a few conversational kickstarts so that you can decide
which is most comfortable for your personality. Whatever you
choose, just make it natural and comfortable.
Funny
If
you have a quick wit and a real sense of humor, then you
can bridge a silence in a way that leaves both of
you laughing. Maybe you can find something funny in a strange
situation. Or
you make a light of how the chef must be out back chasing
down the chicken to take so long for your dinner order to appear.
The only problem with being funny is to avoid sliding into
sarcasm.
Unless you know your date well enough to know
if his sense of humor matches yours, then go easy on the
humor. Making a
casual amusing comment is one thing, but don’t start a comedic
monologue over the entrée. If he can’t get a word in
between your jokes, then humor isn’t a conversation starter
it’s a date ender.
Fascinating
When
you have a love of books or travel or architecture, you
may know a wealth of interesting information on that subject.
Let’s say you are having dinner at a Victorian hotel and
you
know a lot about Victorian era literature. You might ask your date if he knows how today’s dining out
experience is different from that in the time that this restaurant
was originally opened for service. Add a few interesting tidbits
without sounding like a high school teacher lecturing her students.
Share ideas and pose open-ended questions so that he gets
to say something. Trivia is like seasoning - used sparingly
and at the right time, it leaves you wanting more but over-used,
it makes you want to want to leave early.
Free
spirited
Maybe
you’re slightly eccentric or just marching to a different
drummer. Even if he seems more conservative,
he might find your free spirited nature refreshing and enjoyable. Tell him that your friends are constantly amused at your random
questions and fascination with even the slightest things. Ask
him to try a spur of the moment action with you just for fun.
Offer to start a word association – you toss out a word, then
he does, then you respond and so forth. Before long, you are
both laughing and have even more to talk about with this word
game. Friendly
A
sure conversation starter is to ask him about something
that he relates to in his world. You might ask what
a typical day in his job is like or what is it that attracted
him to that job. Before that topic bogs down, offer to tell him what your dream
job is if he’ll tell you what his dream job is. If he talks
about his dog or his hobby re-building classic cars, then ask
him what you would need to know to appreciate his interests.
Just keep it current and avoid talking about your ex-boyfriend
or his ex-girlfriend.
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: 2008
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