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A Date: Who Pays?
Equal pay for equal work is a great idea in
the workplace. Do you also believe in equal pay for equal good
times on the dating scene? It’s a question that bothers many
women. Do you offer to pay for your own dinner or movie ticket?
If you do pay, is it really a “date” in the traditional sense
- or just hanging out like you do with friends? When a man
invites a woman for a date, he usually plans to pay the check.
If he isn’t going to pay, then he needs to make that known
up front.
Maybe if you decide to go on an extreme sports adventure or
attend a pricey live show, then buying your own tickets can
work. Even when you only carry a tiny purse for the evening,
you certainly know it’s smart to bring cash and at least one
credit card.
After all, if the date turns sour and you’re ready to go,
you don’t have to ride home with a drunk or a jerk. You have
enough money to take a cab home. That’s hoping for the best
while being prepared for the worst.
If all through dinner, he leaves less than subtle hints that
he’s only picking up the tab because he expects you to be dessert
later, then by all means summon the waiter and get separate
checks. Having that credit card in your purse shows him that
you aren’t falling for that old line.
On the other hand, if you rush to ask for separate checks
on a first date, you don’t find out how he intended to treat
you. Is he generous and willing to please you or a skinflint
who complains and sends back food hoping to get the bill comp’d?
You won’t know that unless you find out how he handles paying
the check. In the early weeks of dating, most guys go all out
to impress you and show you a good time. He wants you to think
he’s a guy with good taste and makes the extra effort to please
you.
If he starts out taking you to a diner and splitting the order
while asking for a credit on the check if you don’t want the
fries, then that tells you he’s either cheap, boring or both.
A woman who is adamant about paying her own way from the first
date needs to do this without acting overbearing.
A guy can feel like you’re cutting down his masculinity if
you immediately start arguing over the check before the waiter
even brings the drinks. He may receive your independence as
an insult to his ability to provide for you on the date.
If you’re double dating, you could make him feel very uncomfortable
in front of the other man. Better to have a private conversation
about paying the check so that he’s not embarrassed in front
of other people in the group. Click
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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