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Should I Join A Free or Paid Dating Site?

With the explosion of online dating over the past 10 years, most people are wondering what is better - free dating sites, or those where you have to pay to be a member.

Free dating websites have the obvious advantage of not costing you any money, but on the other hand they usually cannot offer the same level of service. They may have many features but usually they will not have so much flexibility.

The other main disadvantage of free sites is that you do not know how serious the members are. They may just be amusing themselves by writing to people they never intend to meet, or they may be a member of hundreds of such sites under different names.

With a paid site you have some minimal security when it comes to meeting the person. In the event something goes badly wrong, at least you know that the site has the person's credit card details and therefore their real name and address. This means that if the police had to trace them, they could. This is not true of free sites where all of the information may be false. So the worst kind of bad guy is going to use the free sites.

Therefore if you can afford it, it is better to go for a paying membership dating site. You will find that the cost varies widely and there is sure to be something that you can afford.

Cost will be one factor when it comes to choosing a site but there are others. There are many niche dating sites online now and whatever your interests, you are almost sure to find a site that will cover them. Before narrowing your choice this way, however, consider whether it really matters to you that the person shares your interest.

For example, before you join a dating website that focuses on your religious group, ask yourself whether you ONLY want to meet people who share your religion. If the answer is yes, then a specialist site is perfect for you. If no, then you will have a wider choice by joining a more general site.

Then look carefully at the features. Many sites offer online chat and instant messaging. This can be a great way to spend a little time getting to know somebody without being as personal as a phone call. Would you enjoy using this feature or would you be happier with just email?

Some of the biggest sites offer outside events in many cities. Speed dating, dinners, or going out as a group to a club or walking on weekends are some of the events that you may see offered. This can work well by giving you an informal way of meeting people that you have been corresponding with.

Other sites offer profile matching. This is like the old fashioned kind of dating company where you would be matched up with other people on their list according to your interests and what you are looking for in your dates. This can be anything from a computer throwing up a list of profiles that might interest you, based on your age, location and interests, to a personal matching service which would introduce you to a small number of members that you could expect to meet very soon.

If you are particularly security conscious, some sites offer a service where they run background checks on all of their members to verify their age, marital status and even employment. Would you like to know that your dates had been checked out in this way? And would you be prepared to join a site that wanted to run those checks on you?

These are just a few of the points to consider when you are choosing between the thousands of paid and free dating sites that are available online.

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