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Article Series: Dating Tips For Women
I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
Are
You Looking for a Good Guy or a Bad Boy?
In the old cowboy westerns, it was easy to
tell the good guys from the bad guys. The good guys wore white
hats and their smile seemed to sparkle just a bit more than
average. Unfortunately in the dating world, you don’t know
right away who is really a good guy and who is a bad boy.
By
the time you find out, you may have experienced a lot of
misery and disappointment. Movies and television glorify the
Bad Boy as a misunderstood man with a kind heart, even though
it’s not evident.
The Good
Guy is portrayed as virtuous and stable in ways that
suggest these qualities are dull. So which is better? What
do they have to offer? The Good Guy is honest and trustworthy
– he’s a man of his word to you and to everyone else.
If he says he’s been called back to work for a second shift,
then he really is working - you don’t have to wonder. The Good
Guy is focused on you - he cares about what brings you joy,
even if it means taking you to the newest chick flick when
his favorite superhero is on the screen next door.
He appreciates the cookies you baked, eating every crumb -
even the burned parts! He brings flowers for no reason and
never forgets your birthday. He plans wonderful dates and trips,
but never on the spur of the moment. He’s dependable and prompt.
The Bad
Boy is selfish and greedy, yet he manages to make
such elaborate excuses that you overlook his immaturity. If
he says he’s called back to work for a second shift, you never
know if it’s to work at the office or a late date with another
woman.
He manages to redefine the world in ways that work for him.
The Bad Boy is focused on doing for you just as little as possible
to soften you up to get what he wants. If he brings flowers,
it’s because he heard someone mention that it’s Valentines
and he stole the roses from a cemetery on the way to your house.
He’s always spur of the moment with grandiose ideas that are
crazy, fun and totally unpredictable. He’s not dependable and
runs on his own time. Based on what values you consider important
in a relationship, you might go for the Bad Boy or the Good
Guy.
Maybe you’ve tried them both. Some women feel that the Bad
Boy is more exciting and adventurous. Other women find comfort
and security in the Good Guy’s honesty and genuine caring.
Good Guys certainly make better husbands than Bad Boys, unless
you enjoy a lifetime of unpredictability. There are women who
will argue for both. The question is, do you want one kind
of man to play around with and another to marry? If that’s
the case, then you have to be honest with yourself about just
how long you expect your fling to last before you get serious
in looking for a potential husband.
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KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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