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I Just Want a Great Guy, Dammit!
How
Do I Accept Compliments Gracefully?
When
a man offers you a genuine compliment and you blow it off,
you’re saying something very unattractive
about yourself. It’s not humble to refuse a compliment - it’s
actually a sign of insecurity and poor self-esteem.
If
he genuinely compliments the way you looking, saying, “You
have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen” and you scoff
at
him, it
will make him feel uncomfortable – as if he’s being a liar.
Can you imagine receiving a beautiful gift that a man has
purposely identified as ideal for you, only for you to open
the box and throw it out in the trash? That’s what you’re doing
when you brush off a real compliment.
If you have a talent or a skill that a man compliments, then
receive the compliment graciously or you brand yourself as
rude and disrespectful as well as insecure. Those responses
say that you aren’t worth the confidence or value that the
other person has for you.
Before you reject a compliment, stop and think about how he
will feel after hearing your rejection. If he says, “That’s
the best cheese omelet I’ve ever tasted” and you fail to accept
his compliment, then you’re saying he’s stupid and doesn’t
know his own tastes.
Even
if he stumbles in trying to give you a compliment, don’t
embarrass him by making fun of it or acting his opinion isn’t
important. If you know that you have problems accepting a compliment,
then don’t wing it.
Decide on a basic response and use that until you feel ready
to branch out. If you just smile and say, “Thank you very much”
- that’s all you need to do. The person who gave the compliment
can feel satisfied that his effort to uplift you was well received.
Smile whenever he offers you a compliment and try not to look
uncomfortable. Don’t just awkwardly change the subject because
you’re blushing and aren’t used to accepting compliments.
You can use the compliment to start up some new conversations.
If he mentions how he loves your decorating style in your home,
thank him and then talk about where you found some unusual
pieces or what you inherited from a relative.
Don’t
always accept a compliment and then immediately return
one to him. That makes you seem insincere. “I love your outfit!”
“Thanks, I love yours, too.” Find appropriate times to conjure
up your own compliments for him and he’ll appreciate them that
much more.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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